I have a three year old daughter from my ex husband and when I had her we didn't tell anyone I was being induced because we wanted to spend the first moments with her without anyone wanting at the hospital. We tell them a few hours later when we were ready and they were welcomed to come she her. Now I'm pregnant with a son, although I'm solo this time I want the same with my son. Ill be moving back in with my parents for a few months till I can move out of town again relocating my job. My parents were very upset that they weren't there while my daughter was being born, but I will be living with them his first months of life so they have plenty of time to see him. I'm a very private person and being adopted, I just don't have that close of a bond with them. They are my parents and they did raise me but I don't feel comfortable with them waiting in the waiting for to see him soon after he's born. I just want it to be him and I for the first few hours, is that so wrong?