Husband and porn

[adri1413]

Ok, so here's my situation. My husband has looked at porn before in the past and I don't agree with it. I feel like him looking at porn is in a way saying that I'm not good enough for him or satisfying him in that way. Like my body is not attractive to him so he has to look elsewhere. Anyway so I've explained to him how I feel about it and he apologized and said he understood. Today I found porn on his phone AGAIN. He said it's from the last time but that's a lie cuz the last time I deleted it in front of him. He is acting like he doesn't care and oh well. And the said thing is I just told him this morning how I feel distant from him and I didn't like how we weren't having sex and he said sorry and nothing's going on and he will make a
a better effort. But ugh it makes me so mad and I more upset he's lieing about it and shows no remorse for me. I'm 14 weeks pregnant. already gained about 8 lbs, have stretch marks galore showing from previous pregnancies, exhausted all day, working full time and taking care of kids now this is just icing on the cake. I feel like crying. Sorry so long, needed to vent. Thanks ladies!

[Brynn_Taylor]

Me and my husband watch porn together and seprately. You're thinking way too much into it. It is not a form of cheating as he hasn't broken any vows. Let me put it this way. Guys are al2ays horny whereas girls are not so why not let him get off some other way sobhe doesn't bother you as much. I love porn and I love that him and I share that together even now when I'm 9 months pregnant.

[jenandrandal]

For every one who says it's normal and ok, check out this article. I have had my own past experiences with this, and a few recent with my now hubby...when I get questions about and our sex life is compared to what is seen in porn...porn is fake, but men begun to believe that this is how their sex life should be and it puts us in a **** position. Because of this my ex husband cheated on me, more then once, because compared to the porn he watched...our sex life was boring.

[jenandrandal]

https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/gq-magazine-tells-men-quit-watching-porn-before-it-ruins-your-sex-life

[mellynn717]

I agree with u its very disrespectful ib y opinion an people saying it's better then them going out and seeing an actual person an cheating looking at another women naked on TV computer whatever it may be is the same as seeing a naked women in person. I'm not ok with it my husband wants to see someone naked it will be me. And saying all guys look at porn is false just cuz some men do doesn't mean all do. My husband doesn't watch porn and never has its just not the type of person he is so lucky for me I don't have to be put in situations like this. But beat of luck to u and sorry u have to go through that.

[Aylasmommy]

There is nothing wrong with him looking at porn. That is the safe, its much better than him going to a strip club. You aren't going to be around or in the mood everytime he gets horney.
It's not like he will cheat on you with any of the women he is watching...he won't fall in love w them. He won't give them any attention or affection. They are not special at all.
Most men focus on one thing when watching porn. The faces she makes, the sounds, the breasts, butt or the actual intercourse part..,any of those is no threat to you.
When ya'll have sex it's much more. He is FEELing it.
Maybe you should watch with him, lol, seriously- it would be a huge turn on for him, and afterward he would think specifically of you when he watches again.

Now, if it degrading extremely rough porn or any kind of "wrong" porn then my opinion is completly different.

[jesshat]

It has completely ruined who I am after being lied to about it from my husband for 13 years. He was an addict like 30 or more times a month no joke. He started watching it when he was 10 because his stupid *** father left it out and in the DVD player. He lied and lied so much and he's a computer nerd so he knew how to hide it. It ended in divorce and he told me if I wouldn't have divorced him he would have never stopped. We are back together after going to therapy and him agreeing to all my terms of no Internet no cable he's not to be left alone ever I quit my job to stay home with my boys and so he wouldn't be alone to be tempted. When we are out he keeps his eyes on me because when you have it that bad the smallest thing can trigger him to think and wanna do. It's not easy at all and the trust is horrible but working on it. It can take a long time and it as in the divorce just happened in 2013. I can go from 0 to off the chart in no time when it comes to porn. He treated us like crap because his mind was always thinking about when he could do it next he was a horrible father and husband and he's still trying to fix his relationship with our almost 7 year old because of it. Good luck and I understand what ur going thru. It is disrespectful and not Ok.