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Husband and porn

Ok, so here's my situation. My husband has looked at porn before in the past and I don't agree with it. I feel like him looking at porn is in a way saying that I'm not good enough for him or satisfying him in that way. Like my body is not attractive to him so he has to look elsewhere. Anyway so I've explained to him how I feel about it and he apologized and said he understood. Today I found porn on his phone AGAIN. He said it's from the last time but that's a lie cuz the last time I deleted it in front of him. He is acting like he doesn't care and oh well. And the said thing is I just told him this morning how I feel distant from him and I didn't like how we weren't having sex and he said sorry and nothing's going on and he will make a
a better effort. But ugh it makes me so mad and I more upset he's lieing about it and shows no remorse for me. I'm 14 weeks pregnant. already gained about 8 lbs, have stretch marks galore showing from previous pregnancies, exhausted all day, working full time and taking care of kids now this is just icing on the cake. I feel like crying. Sorry so long, needed to vent. Thanks ladies!
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9764007 tn?1405807828
Heart broken over porn some of you ladies on here are Hillllllllllllllariousssssssss.. I feel it's sad that you would say you basically feel cheated on or even threatened by a woman in a video or a website aka something that was previously taped... Now I see if it was live video stream of some random ladies that he could possibly meet up with but they are not.. sometimes men just like to look at sexual acts.. I don't see anything wrong with it you should feel disrespected if he actually went out an had sex with someone else not because he watched a video.. I see if it was a video of someone you both knew but it's not..if you are not into videos fine that's you but I guarantee he was watching videos before he met you.. and for the lady who quit her job to stay home to keep her eye on that man is totally ridiculous.. first of all you can't watch him 24/7 if he is that addicted he will find a way.. I don't get what is the big deal.. you guys can't be acting all emotional over fantasy things it's pointless and silly.. why can't a man have his own lil fun time aka video time I say either watch it with him see what is so interesting about it figure out why he likes it maybe if you gave it a chance you would like it to.. and also find something new to do in the bedroom instead of the same things you guys are use to.. spice it up uhh let the man live a little it's not like he loves you any less.. you ladies ranting and raving over something so small.. this is minor compared to the stories I hear on here that happens to females pregnant or not and not just on here.. the not only have men watching the movies but there are some men who act it out with other woman.. while his lady is at home pregnant or not porn is harmless... Get over yourselves.. cheating is worst... Pick your battles wisely.. that is why you would find your man sneaking like a child to watch it.. when he is not a child he is just being a man.. it's just something men do.. not all just some.. it's nothing to lose feathers over or pick unnecessary fights about...
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I know what you are going through. I am still trying to figure things out myself. You will begin to feel better emotionally after a few days. But doesn't mean the hurt doesn't still come to your mind or all the questions you are asking yourself. As for the people who are saying its normal or what not....it really isn't. Porn has become to accessible. Its actually ruining relationships and marriages. Its not something woman should just have to deal with or get over. These are her feelings! Men should learn some self control. Part of being in a relationship is loyalty...and watching porn in my eyes is not being loyal. I asked my bf things about watching porn and stuff and so far that I can assume he hasn't watched it but all I can do is trust. It ***** when its everywhere. Sex is everywhere! Its supposed tonne intimate and private not plastered everywhere.
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Ive been through the same porn issues with my husband. It was a friday night and I used his phone to google what time dairy queen was open till so we could take the kids for icecream. Right at the dinner table, up popped porn he'd watched.  It was a kick to my self confidence, self esteem and self worth the minute i saw it, so i decided that  weekend i was gonna be his own personal "pornstar"....the best damn pornstar hes seen. (My kids spent the weekend at grammas house!)  I went out and bought sexy lingerie, lube, i re-dyed my hair, and bought new makeup!  The weekend was filled with amazing sex, blowjobs, anal sex (2 nights in a row!) Lap dances, you name it, we did it!  he came home from work monday and i had dinner on the table, an open beer in my hand some sexy lingerie on, gave him a ******* right in the middle of the kitchen...any dirty sexual act you could possibly think of i did. Friday to monday of amazing sex!  Tuesday night hes sitting next to me on the couch and pulls up his Internet a different porn site came up, he turned his phone off quickly thinking that i didnt see it but i did...HEARTBROKEN I felt!  I put soo much effort into giving him anything and everything he wanted and after i saw that i felt i wasnt enough for him. After a full weekend of his wife playing a pornstar he still wanted to watch porn.  I was soo hurt i felt like i couldnt even lay next to him i cried myself to sleep for 2 nights. I decided screw it, i was gonna tell him how seeing the porn on his phone made me feel and guess what!...he had enough respect for me to take my feelings into account and not watch it as much anymore!  Its really hard to express to them how it makes us feel because they dont understand, to men "its just porn"  when i asked my husband why he watched it he said "i donno, ive been watching it since i was 10,  its just habbit"  he told me he doesnt even satify him self when watching it,  usually he watches it while hes taking a dump (weird i know) but it was something he decided to let go of because he loves me!
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Im secure w myself and our relationship that I dont mind him watching it. Its fantasy! Jealousy is so ridiculous to me.
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He has told u sorry...im sure he's cut back at least..and thats still not good enough. ..u are making it worse by fussing and nagging about it. Ok u dont agree w it and it makes u feel unattractive and he should understand but to have issues over it is going too far. Sometimes u should just be happy w progress he has made to try to make u happy. Men are men. Hes looking not touching and its 2D. Give a little.
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10724724 tn?1432178017
No no no!!! Just because some of these woman think its ok that their husbands watch porn, doesn't mean everyone else should accept it too!!! My husband did the same thing when I was pregnant and it made me feel very sad.. I do not like the whole porn crap and nobody should force you to like it.. He should give it up because you are more important..
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