would you leave ?

[Tattooed_Mommyyy]

Im 22 weeks pregnant today & my bf & i have been dating off & on for almost 3 years.

We dont break up often but sometimes i leave him (he lives in cali)  & go back to vegas to be w/ my family. Happens maybe once a year & i only do it so he can see what life is like without me & he struggles & begs me back every time..

Well anyway, i know about 1 girl he was w/ while we were broken up for 6 months,  he was only w/ her for 3 of those months & then aborted it after 8 weeks.
We got back together & now im pregnant.

Well today i found a debit card w/ another girls name on it in his wallet (i wasnt snooping) i went in there to grab my debit card .
I asked why he had it & he said he got it from 1 of his guy friends , i laughed & said "no why do you have this".
He then proceeded to tell me that what he did when we broke up is not my bizz & starts calling me names.
UNDERSTANDABLE. (Not the name calling part)

But ,there is just so much **** ive been thru w/ him & im literally at the end of my rope.
Hes hit me while im pregnant & puts me down.
Only when we fight which is maybe once every 2weeks & in between things are great, perfect even.

Im just really torn at what i should do, i want my little boy to have his dad & honestly i do love him alot. But is this even healthy ???

But if you were in my shoes would you stay or leave ?

[wife_and_mama2014]

She shouldn't have to "fight back". That's incredibly unhealthy. I guess women don't realize how absolutely dangerous it is to be in a relationship like that. You need to leave and be careful!!

[jlo04]

Ive ur shoes im still my kids father he was ptting hands on me while I was pregnant with my son n daughter but I would take his crap n he call me names n hit me n now its different cuz I fought back words n stand my ground n tell him if he didnt change he will lose his family n hebon his own my stand his crap anymore u need to put ur foot down n look him in the eye n whatever his says dont it get to u n hit u fight back n show u mean busniess

[OctoberMommy2014]

you're stronger than me, that's for sure! my fiance & I have been together for over 2 years, engaged for over a year, and I love him dearly.. but he's got ONE time to lay a finger on me while pregnant.. and I'll be done!

I'll be the first to admit that NO relationship is perfect, we've both put our hands on each other in the past which is NOT right, but we grew up! especially with a baby now.. I'm 23w2d & my priorities have changed dramatically.. as any parents' should.

weigh your options.. are you AND your baby going to be in harms way if you stay with him? if so, leave. a baby won't make him change.. I'll be praying for you.. ♥

[1st_time_mommyscarbro]

I'm worried that if he hits you while you are pregnant that he will continue hitting you around your baby boy and that is not healthy. And after being with someone for only 8 weeks its weird that he has another chicks debit card. Personally I think you would be better off without him but thats your decision at the end of the day. Just do what would be best for your son, he needs to be your number 1 priority and his needs come first. He needs a father who would give him a great future and be the best example for him.

[Pamela0128]

In my opinion never stay with a man that will disrespect so bad that he'll hit you.

[wife_and_mama2014]

If he's hitting you AT ALL, why is it even a question? Of course you should leave him. Doesn't matter how often or not often he does it right now, it WILL progress. He could kill you someday. Or hurt your child. It's not something to just shrug off. I would leave his *** and also put a restraining order on him. Not gonna hit me and have the opportunity to hurt your child. Nope.

[StarsOverSnow]

If you fight to the point of violence, leave. Your baby does not need to see that or feel that pain. And you do not either. I know you love him, after 3 years how couldn't you? But think clearly about this and I think you'll know what you need to do.

[mog__x]

By hitting you when you're pregnant he is putting not just you in danger but the life of your unborn baby. I know it's hard and sad, but your baby doesn't need a person like that in their life! All the other stuff he seems to do sounds bad enough, it's psychological abuse. Add on top of that the actual physical abuse and I think it's obvious that you and your baby are much better off without him. You should go back to Vegas to be with your family if that's a possibility. Pregnancy is one of the most vulnerable times in a woman's life and you need to be with people who will support and help take care of you. Not some pathetic excuse for a man/father. Good luck.

[ericatoday]

If my bf ever hit me especially while pregnant I'd not only leave him I'd probably beat him with a stick while he slept. So I'd say you should leave its not healthy for you or your child. Its not like your son can't still have his dad you don't need to be with him for him to be a dad

[KyandKay]

He has no right to hit you. At all. Especially being pregnant. No respect for you or his baby. Leave

[lovingmy32014]

If its not working I would leave I been threw that an it isn't healthy he could still be in your sons life I mean an then why does he still have the card not unless he takes care of her to the recent girl but if yall are fighting maybe you need a break away or to part. An to talk it out amongseach other

[ArickaR]

You should leave him