bad things happen in threes...

[Kate037]

After all that apartment drama I go to the bank and speak with a financial advisor so I can work on (what I thought was my nonexistant) credit. Only to find out I've been a victim of identity theft :( So after thinking I was refused apartments because I had no credit  it turns out I have really bad credit. So I do some digging in the accounts they opened in my name, they were stupid enough to change the address to their address, and from there I discovered the person responsible is the Aunt or Uncle of one of my so called friends. So now on top of moving next weekend, I have to deal with credit bureau investigations and police reports and investigations at the company they frauded in my name..
I feel like raising my arms in the air and screaming 'WHAT NEXT?!?!' I'm worried I'm gonna stress myself into premature labor, does that happen? Can being under stress cause early labor?

[snrich7420]

Dow I am so sorry all this is happening to u... I cant bwlieve wat ppl do to other ppl .. ESP u being prwgnant... How f*ked up is that!? I hope they get charged and have to pay u back and do some jail time cuz thats jus messed up. Keep ur head up hun it will get bettwr.

[Kate037]

The first trimester was really rough, I was very sick all the time in and out of the hospital,  and it took a while to check for pregnancy because of previous complications, so I didn't find out I was expecting until the end of that trimester. Second trimester was up and down. Some days were amazing and I felt like I could take over the world, but morning sickness never went away. Third trimester is shaping up to be the best one so far. I'm so happy to have my energy back and feeling as normal as I can most days, hoping it stays that way :) I'm in a much better mood now that I got sleep, thank you again for talking to me last night, I really appreciate it.
Oh you're getting there! A couple more weeks! How do you feel, are you nervous? Is this your first?

[luxejess93]

I'm 37 and 3 days now and it seems like Ibhave to ask for help with everything! I can't wait to push this kid outta me lol how has your baby been treating you?

[Kate037]

Oh the hormones su ck! I've done a pretty good job of keeping my cool but sometimes theres that little voice in my head that makes me blurt out whatever is in my head. Or I find myself crying for no reason, and then laughing at myself because I know how ridiculous I'm being. Having to ask for help is always difficult for me too. I don't like to, so I tend to just do things on my own and them have to put up with someone else nagging at me for doing it.
How far along are you?

[luxejess93]

Glad I could help! :) I'm glad you have a good support system since not everybody does. For me the biggest change was having to ask for help and not being to able to do everything on my own since I am very stubborn and all the extra hormones making me upset all the time lately.

[Kate037]

Yes they've all been wonderful with calming me down and taking it easy. I'm really thankful for all of them (and you!) Just gotta learn to take it day by day. That's the hardest part. Pregnancy has  forced me to change so many aspects of my life, it's like I'm a whole new woman. Definitely a lot to get used to.

[luxejess93]

That is how I calm myself down. I tell myself it's in the past and I can't change it now and ask myself how I can deal with it and make the situation better in the present. It took me years to learn how to let go, but it's really all you can do. You didn't ask for this to happen or make it happen. Is the father around to help at all maybe? Or some family?

[Kate037]

I'm 28 weeks today. So there is still lots of time until baby is due to arrive. I feel like life is just a big sh*t show now. I'm getting screwed over left right and center and when I stop thinking about it, I catch myself and then feel guilty for not thinking about it. It's all out of my hands for now while I wait for all the companies/police to get back to me. So I'm trying to focus on the fact that I can't do anything.

[luxejess93]

Wow! I couldn't imagine going through that not pregnant, more or less pregnant. And in some cases it could cause early labor yes, but every pregnancy and every baby is different. So just breath deep and take it one day and one moment at a time. How far along are you?