I need some advice...

[dianewalther]

My mother in law wants to come stay with us for a month after I have our baby. We live in a different state than any of our family. I love my mother in law, I mean I really lucked out, I consider her one of my best friends,  I am just scared to have her stay for that long. I mean a month just seems a little to long. Even my own mother wont be staying for that long. I am just worried im going to start resenting her because space is limited, we live in an apartment, she can be over bearing sometimes, and I am a people pleaser so I never really let people know they are making me mad or overstepping boundaries. I have told my husband I am worried about the lengthy stay, he hasn't said much about it, but then again he works ALOT, like 15 hour days Mon-Fri so he isnt going to be sitting at home with her all the time.
I guess I just want some advice on whether or not I will "need" her for that long. I am a FTM so I dont know what to expect. My mother will be coming out first. I know it will mean the world for her to stay for that long, I am just really stressing out about it.

[Mommy__2]

2 weeks should be the max in my opinion

[ericatoday]

I just had my second child 2 weeks ago. And honestly I still had to cook and clean for my family as soon as I got home. I would have loved for someone to cook for me. And sometimes my son is awake for an hour or more but not hungry so I wish someone could watch him while I slept but my bf works a lot. Or it will be great for someone to run errands for you or pick up groceries while you stay home with the baby. I think 3 weeks is a good idea.

[dianewalther]

Yeah Im starting to think maybe 2 weeks or 3 AT THE MOST LOL. We have to make it worth her while coming out here, we live halfway across the country from eachother. So money for travel has to be thought about. But then on the other hand we only see eachother maybe once a year so her being able to stay for a long time is good too.

[mummainoz]

In all honesty, in my experience, it would have been waste of her time and an inconvenience for me. In that first 6wks even my husband was at a loss as to how he could help. It is a constant 24hr routine of feeding, changing, sleeping. You might appreciate the extra help for household chores or 5mins to yourself but I didn't need or want anyone there ALL the time. I would say thanks but no thanks. Why not come for a weekend when baby is a couple of weeks old and you're ready for a break and the laundry's piling up.

[ericatoday]

Well trust me it will be nice to have the extra help. But a month is really long it usually takes only about 2 weeks to get into the swing of things with a new born

[dianewalther]

Yeah I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place! I just dont want to put any negativity into our relationship, and this is her first grandchild so she is super excited.

[melinafbby]

It's a good and bad thing because you are a FTM, and your going to need all the help you can get, but then it'll get annoying because your going to want to do things alone with your baby, and learn on your own, this is a hard one, but it doesn't hurt to learn a thing or two from her... good luck ♡♡