lying and cheating?!

[kaykay2k13]

Me and my husband have been together since before my firstchild was born I was 14 weeks pregnant at the time, and after we started dating he told me his ex girlfriend told him she was pregnant and that she found out two weeks after they broke up.  I told him I would be there for him and help him as much as I could, I was 17 at the time.  After a few months she called him, he said he didn't talk to her or nothing but she out the blue called him and they talked just a few mins and hung up and as far as I know they didn't talk.  After my son was born when he was about three months old I moved back in with my mom bc of all the stress and people at his moms ( 11+ people living there) and I found out he started talking to his ex girlfriend telling her he was sorry that he loved her and wanted her back, she had a little boy right before they got together, and he said he wanted them to be his family andhe would come visit me and then the minute he left would text her.  I also found out thatshe said she had lost the baby and that he went and picked up a different girl and brought her to his moms house for her to do "laundry" but he told me she slept in the bed with him and that he got up and went to the couch and she followed him, he said they never done anything but i still wonder.  Then at the same time while he told his ex he loved her he was telling me the same thing.  Then my fist child's father when he down this way (he lives in Michigan) I let him see his son and my husband didn't like it.  And while he saw his son my husband texted his ex girlfriend again wanting to meet upwith her the next day at the park or somewhere if it was nice.  He says he just wanted to be friends with her but I can't help but to think about what he actually told her and what they really did talk about.  I told him that I didn't like that he talked to her bc of what happened before and he got mad about it, but it goes through my head all the time what he's actually doing, he even got on like 3-4 dating sites saying he wanted someone who loved sex and things like that I asked him why he had them and he said he didn't get in them but I changed his passwords and got on there and he made them just last month.  it upsets me that he lied to me about it and that he talks to his ex girlfriend on there.  I feel like he just wants to be with her  and is only using me.  Im currently pregnant with his child, which will be his first born.  He says he's excited about it.. but I just feel like he wants his ex back):  and it makes me so depressed and down but I love him and I want to be with him I just wish he wouldn't talk to his ex or lie to me about anything.  Any suggestions on how we could try and fix it or maybe get it where he won't talk to her or lie to me?

[LutiousLefty]

I had something similar happen to me, I was dating my now husband and his ex messaged him saying he was the father, thankfully for me he turned out not to be but during that period he went and looked after the child and her. She was the one to break up with him and marry the childs real father.

it wasn't until after all that happened and we had started talking again that we decided that it was right between us and we got married and I am now exspecting but I still get angry at his ex for putting us in that situation.

I think Cindylovestito is correct you need to get your feelings out in the open with this man, if he can't/won't talk to you about the situation and see it from your view then he doesn't seem like the kind of guy that should be around your children.

[CindyLovesTito]

Its going to keep happening unless you give him a ultamatium its either his ex or his child.