Alone :(

[Jhsgirl]

My boyfriend got a job offer making 6 more dollars on the hour than hes making now but he can only be home on some saturdays I know the money is good and itll be better for our family in the long run but im scard I go monday to get induced and hes not going to be there I am mad, sad, happy all at the same time. Im going have to stay in the hospital alone go home alone. We also have a 5 year old and im not sure how im going to do it I feel like im not going be able to do it.. I know theres no real question here but I feel so alone has anyone else been there?

[Ashleigh529]

Sleep, what the heck is that? ?? I haven't slept in sooooo long it feels like. My advice is while your sons with ur dad sleep everytime the baby does. Get as much sleep as u can. When ur sons back home u can have rest time if u need it. Have him relax with u on the couch. A schedule for ur baby grl will be important and it can be hard for a baby but be consistent. Try and have her bath time at the same time every night things like that. When she gets a little older shell notice her structure and ull be glad u have a routine.

For my 6 yr old i definitely didnt have one but for my son and will try my best to do do for yhe new little guy.

[Jhsgirl]

Well here goes my first day without him :( he left this morning

[Jhsgirl]

Im 38w 3d im getting induced monday, im also young im 25. It helps to know im not alone and other moms do it! Im worried about not sleeping im not sure what the babys sleep is going be like my son goes to bed at 9 and gets up around 7 he doesnt take naps anymore so I wont be able to sleep when he sleeps. I talk to his school today he can take a week off and it wont be held against him so thats going to help a ton! What did you ladys do about sleep? Do you have any tips on getting my baby girl on a schudle? My son was never on one and its been 5 yrs since ive had a baby

[2bmommyof2]

Mommy jeep, I know exactly where you are coming from!! We also live south of Houston and my hubby works oilfield too and thankfully he's home most night but very rarely is it before 9pm and he usually leaves the house around 4am. He also has jobs down on the border from time to time and I HATE those days! I'm always worried sick about him! He gets to spend like every other weekend with our 4 yr old, not sure what's going to happen when our little girl comes in July.

Jhsgirl, you are so not alone even though it may feel like it sometimes! You've got all of us out here!! Message me anytime if you'd like! It may be hard, but your honey is doing his best to support you and your growing family! My question, does his job offer short-term medical leaves of absence? I know some states allow for the father to take one when their kids are born, just a thought!

[Mommyjeep11]

My husband is also in the oil field. He works mon-fri out of town and is home on weekends. It ***** but with him making good money I get to stay home with our son so I can't really complain. And he's not gettin shot at like military men/women are...well sometimes. We live south of Houston and he works down on the border so it does worry me a lot when he is in Laredo and places like that. Our son will be 4 March 27 and our daughter will be here March 19. Thankfully though he has been with the company almos 4 years now so he gets 3 weeks of vacation plus his boss is a really nice guy and said he should be able to give him an extra week to be home after the baby is born that he doesn't have to use vacation for. I know it's hard to make the adjustment with his new job but it will get easier. I don't even remember what it was like when he first started working out of town during the week 7 years ago. I know it sucked at first but now it's normal for us. More than a few weeks together full time and we are ready to pull each others heads off lol. We've just become so accustomed to only seeing each other on weekends but it works for us. But even before he started doing this we didn't spend a whole lot of time together we both like our own space and to be able to do our own things. Thankfully though I do have a lot of family close by so if I'm sick or need help with something I can call my parents or inlaws.  So that does help. Just hang in there it will get better and easier. Good luck!!

[Ashleigh529]

It is very hard for them too. My man hates being away from his kids but were so young ( im 24 hes 26) he knows hes got to work hard now so in a few yrs he can make the same money but way way less hours. I get so angry with his work i find it easier to be mad at his job and not at him since he doesn't chose these hours but only does it so our kids can have things he didn't as a kid. Trust me its so hard and stressful but i look at ny kids and just remind myself how blessed i am to have healthy kids and how wonderful it is that i can be home with them. When are u due?? Oh and the school thing is a pain lol. You will adapt tho. Be strong :-)

[Jhsgirl]

Thank you girls so much!! I have a great family no friends tho my mom is going to be in the delver room with me my dad is going keep my son he can only get monday off so my mom cant stay :( im not sure how you do it ash but go you lol how do you do it? Im trying to figure out how im going take my son to school with a baby.. Yes hes just trying to make a bettet life and I know he hates it I guess I just dont understand he has a job now we dont hurt for anything I try to tell him money doesnt matter but he said he wants better for us I just dont sed how he can go without seeing his baby girl

[waterfowlgirl]

Make sure you have a support system with your family and friends. my boyfriend is in the marines. just think of the positive things and if he misses out on things try to understand and not get too upset. You just have to remember hes only trying to give you and your babys a better life.

[Ashleigh529]

Hey im right there with you. My husband works at the oil refineries and works crazy crazy hours! Right now hes working 12.5 hr shifts 7 days a week for 30 days straight no days off. The $$ is wonderful but im so lonely and stressed. I have a 6 yr old and a 1.5 yr old and im 27 wks pregnant. During spring-summer he works these hours all the time. Its their busy season and of course when i had my son in 2010 he got to be there the day i gave birth but had to go to work the next day. Not to mention he worked graveyard. Its so much easier that your other kid is older the hardest part will be finding quality time to spend with ur other child. Do u have any friends or family that will be there to support u during the birth? Its gonna be tough but u can do it!

[Morrisfamily2012]

I'm sorry to hear this. Do you have family near you or close friends that could be with you and help with your 5 year old during labor? My sister is 10 hours from me and she offered to come help me when the baby arrives. I don't need it though. Is your husband able to take sick days when you go into labor? I hope things work out for you and you don't have to be alone. I had an appt this morning and had work right after so I went alone and it was the worst feeling ever to be sitting there waiting by myself.

[britanydbush]

I'm so sorry that you have to go thru this and I understand your frustration. My HuBbY works offshore so he misses and is gonna miss a lot. But at the same time he the provider for our family. And all my family lives in another state. But if you ever need someone to talk to or vent I'm here.