Seeking advice because it seems I'm wrong.

[mommylex]

So the story is..

I met the father of my daughter in February of 2012.

When we met he told me he was divorcing and separated and his wife left him. I believed it.

I got to see him 2-3 times a month regardless of him being stationed in a different state. and almost live with him for a year and when he got out of the service he came back home. (We live in the same hometown)

We started having issues broke up and I got pregnant.

Well his mom and him say that I got pregnant on purpose to keep him around but that's not the case. I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was going on 9 weeks. And even then when I did find out I was freaking out because I didn't want a kid. I wanted to abort but my aunt convinced me it was wrong. I would've regretted it.

Also, his mom says that I should've been protected if I didn't want a baby. What about him? I was on birth control but she says I'm lying because I still got pregnant.

(it's been 2 years that we had  been together) never was his wife around or anything.

and she says that she will do the feedings and changing and bathing and changing the baby when he has his days with her (I'm having a girl) because it's not a mans job and they find that inappropriate in her family.  It's MY baby. And his responsibility. Wtf.  

No one should be doing anything for him but himself when it comes to the baby.

She also accused me of ruining his marriage but he is still legally married ANYWAY. I'm not with him and don't intend to be but he said that he did cheat on his wife with me. How will this look in court??


So what the hell?! I got into a fight with her and he's upset at ME.

[aluc3y]

Id do the same!

[mommylex]

I'm just going to cut all ties with that family. Bunch of wack people.

[aluc3y]

Just the fact that his mom said that he won't be doing the feeding and changing will look bad in court.

[MommahElizabeth]

Men -_- , regardless how it all went down, he's the father of your baby. & frankly fck whats she's got to say! My daughters grandma also tried to say that I got pregnant just to tie him down & force.him into marriage becus we've been together for 2 yrs. After I told her to fck off I felt so much better lol

[mommylex]

I did but she's flat out rude just because I got pregnant as the mistress. Well uh... He lied. Blame him.

[MommahElizabeth]

Very true! Maybe have a talk with her and let her know to respect your decisions because you have your baby with her son not with her.

[mommylex]

She has no say so though. I didn't have a baby with HER. It's my kid.

[MommahElizabeth]

Well, I don't think any of that has to do anything when you go to court. Regardless the story the dad has to pay for his child. So don't even worry about it:) just don't go off on them as they can save texts & messages ans try to use that against you saying you're aggressive! & as for the diaper changing, I kinda understand that bcus if my daughters dad was still around ( were kinda in the same boat ) , I would not allow him to change or even bathe my daughter. But to each her own, good luck hun!