Freaking out...

[Mizzztaylor]

So I posted the other day that my bf and I had broken up when I was 3 months pregnant (I'm now 32 weeks.) I just found out this week that he has been seeing someone else for the past 4 months and she is now 3 1/2 months pregnant. He was genuinely surprised that I was upset by that and that concerned me. You were all so supportive and I'm so appreciative. Unfortunately the situation has gotten a bit worse since then. Turns out that in addition to this other girl that is now pregnant he also has a wife. Like an actual wife. The cabin that he was "living" in is his parents cabin and he has another home that he shares with his wife. Also, a few months prior to us meeting he did a short time in jail for domestic violence. I really feel this situation has gone above and beyond him being an a**hole. I'm just downright freaked out by the whole thing. I think he might seriously be deranged. It's a really long story about how it all came about but his wife basically found out about me and the other girl and somehow got a hold of my email. He told me himself about his pregnant girlfriend but his wife emailed me today pretty much calling me a homewrecker. It's very clear from the nature of her email that she thinks I knew he was a married man. I haven't contacted her back and I think for the time being its best that I don't. Ive already consulted with an attorney this morning to explain the whole situation and what I can do after the baby is born to protect her from him. I have never ever felt physically threatened by him but I do think he is completely unstable and given the fact that he has ha a history of violence and has no apparent moral conscience I want him nowhere near my daughter. I'm just really overwhelmed and freaking out about the whole thing. The only positive that I can say has come from it is that I'm keeping a very clear head and am really focused on keeping my baby safe. The last few months I haven't been sure where to draw my boundaries because everything has been so awkward between us. Even though its so much worse than I knew and least I know now and I know how to proceed. Thanks so much for bearing with me and reading this far. I know it's a lot. I just really needed to get my story out.

[Mizzztaylor]

It sounds like If I do end up having to let him near her it will be supervised. Id rather not let him near her at all but if I have to I'd rather not have him around her unsupervised so it's better than nothing.

[crstl11]

Omg I can't believe this is happening to u it sounds like a movie...sorry u are going through this. Good luck!

[lpewitt44]

Wow! Sounds like a lifetime movie! Im sorry youre having to go thru this but you seem as if you are a strong person! Just be sure thst you really make sure he cant cone around! I wish the best fir you and your child!

[Nina159]

Thats bad how dare he well ur a strong persin and you can do it and I think ur doing the right thing in keeping him away from ur baby girl good luck :)