Anyone else?

[Jame0223]

I'm 18, 19 in february. I found out i was pregnant about a month ago and lost it to miscarriage last friday. I know I'm not in the perfect situation to get pregnant. I still live with my parents, my boyfriend and I don't make enough money to spoil a baby, but enough to be happy. I want to go to school and so does he. After losing the baby, I was devastated, but kind of relieved. I said that I wasn't happy that I lost it, but i know it was probably for the better. But it hasn't even been a week and I really miss being pregnant and having the excitement of having a baby. I'm young, but I've always dreampt  of being a mother and I know i'd be a good one. Out of all my friends (you can imagine a group of diverse 18 year old girls), I'm the most motherly. They've even told me that to my face. "youre so mommy like" I took it as a compliment. What, I can't help that I'm really mature for my age. I was EXTREMELY happy and excited about my pregnancy. Everyone around me is like oh no its a mistake, blah blah blah. I told all of them that it was not a mistake to me. I know I'm young but i really wanted that baby. I told everyone I wasn't going to try and get pregnant again. The more I think about it, the more I do want to get pregnant again. I loved being pregnant and I really wanted a baby. I know it'd be better to wait, but gosh I just don't know what to say. Anyone else young have a m/c and want to get pregnant asap afterwards even when you know its not the right time?

[rachie204]

an endless job...that is a very good way to describe it.  At 3 in the morning when you are feeding an infant or cleaning up puke and diarrhea from your 3 year old.  :)   Thanks for you words AngelF

[AngelF]

First Rachie I would like to commend you on your post.  There is a lot of truth in what you wrote. I would like to say I'm sorry for what you experienced at such a young age, but the Lord turned it into something great.  I was married at 19 & before I was married my ex & I tried to conceive, we continued trying when we were married.  I loved him so much & I thought he could never hurt me.  Turned out he got his brother's girlfriend along with a few others preg.  All I can say now is Thank God for unanswered prayers.  Sometimes what we think we want is not what the Lord has planned for us.  I look at these girls he's gotten preg & their lives are awful.  These children don't have a father.  I'm not saying this will happen to you girls, but please think b4 you make a decision that will change your whole life.  You may think it's fun & looks so great, but also think it's an endless job. We are not here to put you down or tell you what to do, we are here out of love & concern for you.  It's a decision only you can make, but please pray to the Lord for guidance first.  You have plenty of time to have a baby.  If you decide & feel that it is God's will for your life to have one right now... then that's great & nobody can stop you.  We are only trying to tell you from experience how much life you have ahead of you.  I don't doubt you are mature young ladies.  I'm only 22 (23 in Nov) myself.  I'm just saying don't be in such a hurry to grow up.  Enjoy every minute God gives you.  And once again if you decide to have a baby now, then that's great & we are all happy for you.  Just think before you do please, that baby needs a home, clothes, formula, food, and it doesn't have to have one but it wants one.. a father.  G'luck to all of you & may God bless your lives!  

[rachie204]

I don't mean to put you down...I dont even mean to put those who are not married down b/c  I was pregnant and then a mother who was not married for over 2 years...but for those who's boyfriend or fiance say they want to be with them forever I personally would make that guy marry me before I got in a position where I was pregnanct with his child.  Just something I learned from experiance.  Actions speak much louder than words. Once again I had my names mixed up Linzola1 and appoligise for that.

[Linzola1]

Its okay. I felt that you were putting me down. I am married and very happily. But I do agree about the waiting thing. That is good advice.

[rachie204]

I'm sorry if I offended you..there were one or two girls who said their boyfriend or fiance were comitted to them or they lived at home and wanted to have a baby. I still suggest waiting until hormone levels stabalize.  Right after the miscarriage I thought I wanted to have a baby as soon as we could..but after my body and emotions returned to normal I realized that I actually wanted to wait a while.  We are possibly pregnant again but we did not try and if we are not I am planning on waiting until probably Jan or Feb.  Everone is entitled to their own opinions and should make their own decisions I am just sharing my story and experiance to those who want it. Best of luck

[Linzola1]

Where did you come up with that i am not married? I got married in May and I believe the Lord will make it possible for me to have a baby. My husband and I are very faithful that we will get pregnant. We own our home and we are doing great. I feel like I was judged by the fact that I was supportive of the ladies that are my age although I was lucky to find the man that I will spend the rest of my life with at a very young age.