Anyone else?

[Jame0223]

I'm 18, 19 in february. I found out i was pregnant about a month ago and lost it to miscarriage last friday. I know I'm not in the perfect situation to get pregnant. I still live with my parents, my boyfriend and I don't make enough money to spoil a baby, but enough to be happy. I want to go to school and so does he. After losing the baby, I was devastated, but kind of relieved. I said that I wasn't happy that I lost it, but i know it was probably for the better. But it hasn't even been a week and I really miss being pregnant and having the excitement of having a baby. I'm young, but I've always dreampt  of being a mother and I know i'd be a good one. Out of all my friends (you can imagine a group of diverse 18 year old girls), I'm the most motherly. They've even told me that to my face. "youre so mommy like" I took it as a compliment. What, I can't help that I'm really mature for my age. I was EXTREMELY happy and excited about my pregnancy. Everyone around me is like oh no its a mistake, blah blah blah. I told all of them that it was not a mistake to me. I know I'm young but i really wanted that baby. I told everyone I wasn't going to try and get pregnant again. The more I think about it, the more I do want to get pregnant again. I loved being pregnant and I really wanted a baby. I know it'd be better to wait, but gosh I just don't know what to say. Anyone else young have a m/c and want to get pregnant asap afterwards even when you know its not the right time?

[Cowgirl~]

Thanx that is very helpfull and a appreciate it and i agree with you and im glad someone is on our side and has something positive to say for once. Everyone has a hard time and its not easy for anyone and jsut cause were only 18 well im almsot 19 does not mean that we are not smart and cant do it were done with school im as smart as im going to get and know everything i need to and i think ill be a great mom and my boyfreind/ fiancee with be a great dad and i know he will always be there for us he loves me more then anything in the world will make it work! love is all you need sometimes.

[Linzola1]

thank you that is very helpful. Its nice to hear something positive once and a while.

[Skylynns_mom]

I just want to say that I was 18 when I got pregnant, had my daughter at 19.  Her Sperm donor left me when i was 6 months prego after being together for 3 years.  I am now 21 engaged, my daughter has father figure, i work, I go to school, I take care of my family, and I pay my bills.  Age is not that big of a deal if you are ready.  I have people telling me all the time what a great job i have done and what a good mother i am.  I am 21 my daughter isnt even 2 yet.  My point is that if you want something bad enough you shouldn't let anyone change your mind.  I am not saying that it is easy, beacuse its not and sometimes it will be VERY hard but the good times make up for that and I think that even people that have children at older ages have a hard time every once in awhile. Anyway just wanted to share my success story since some of the girls seem to be out numbered.  Good luck and make a decission you are POSITVE you want b/c you cant take it back.

[AngelF]

I think prayerful wife said it best ladies.  We are NOT trying to preach at you, it's your life & only you can make the ultimate decision. We are just trying to help you to understand the situation better & get you to think b4 you leap.  I'm so sorry for all your losses.  I've never had a m/c, but I know t would really be the worst.  Know this, Jesus loves you & he is here to take the pain away.  All you girls are so young & you have plenty of time to think about children.  I'm not telling you to be married 1st, although the bible does say we should.  I was young & I thought I knew it all.  I've made a lot of mistakes in life, and again I'm not preaching, I' m trying to help.  I thought when I was 18 I was ready to be a mom, who is now my ex-husband (he was my boyfriend at the time) tried to have a baby.  Sometimes we get upset when God desn't give us what we want, but now I thank him.   could of had a baby with a man I fought with all the time, has I don't know how many children now (with different women) & doesn't help support any f them.  Please ladies think about it before you decide.  If you are not finacially set, your living at home, & not in a commited relationship it's not worth it.  Yes, a baby i a wonderful thing, but it has to come at the right time.  If you plan on going to college, it's kinda hard with a baby.  Please just think about it.  If you have even the slightest doubt,then don't do it, it's not fare to your future child.  Again it's a choice only you can make, but I would suggest you pray about it.  Also, once again I'm very sorry for your loss.

[prayerful wife]

I just wanted to make a comment.  I'm the last person to preach and fuss, b/c you ladies are absolutely right "it's your life and your decision"!  The only thing these ladies are trying to tell you is that there is a WHOLE world of opportunity out there waiting for you and what you have to offer.  As women we know we can have babies; ultimately that's what we're put here for.  But before you go off having babies take the world by storm and live it up.  I can speak from personal experience I had my 1st son at 18.  I thought I was grown and this man would be the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with.  This idiot pays no child support, doesn't participate in his sons life, and I've sat up many-a-night wondering how the lights and daycare would get paid.  If it wasn't for the God above I wouldn't have made it this far.  I now can honestly say I've realized God makes no mistakes ladies from EVERY miscarriage you've had including the two the I've had, it happened for a reason.  When it's your season nobody knows better than the man who sits high and looks low and that's when he'll bless you with that little bundle of joy.  I'm now married, back in school, closing on my house, expecting a baby with my HUSBAND and putting my life in the order it should have started in.  I'm 27yrs old, don't be my age looking back on life with shoulda, coulda, wouldas.  Go out make some mega bucks, be your own shot callers and when you meet that man that knows your worth b/c he'll be just as successful then concentrate on rug rats.  You're in my prayers and thoughts...hell I was you!

[Linzola1]

God will bless you when it is the right time. Thats the only way I was able t make it thriugh the miscarriage. Good luck and dont let anyone bring u down.