Anyone else?

[Jame0223]

I'm 18, 19 in february. I found out i was pregnant about a month ago and lost it to miscarriage last friday. I know I'm not in the perfect situation to get pregnant. I still live with my parents, my boyfriend and I don't make enough money to spoil a baby, but enough to be happy. I want to go to school and so does he. After losing the baby, I was devastated, but kind of relieved. I said that I wasn't happy that I lost it, but i know it was probably for the better. But it hasn't even been a week and I really miss being pregnant and having the excitement of having a baby. I'm young, but I've always dreampt  of being a mother and I know i'd be a good one. Out of all my friends (you can imagine a group of diverse 18 year old girls), I'm the most motherly. They've even told me that to my face. "youre so mommy like" I took it as a compliment. What, I can't help that I'm really mature for my age. I was EXTREMELY happy and excited about my pregnancy. Everyone around me is like oh no its a mistake, blah blah blah. I told all of them that it was not a mistake to me. I know I'm young but i really wanted that baby. I told everyone I wasn't going to try and get pregnant again. The more I think about it, the more I do want to get pregnant again. I loved being pregnant and I really wanted a baby. I know it'd be better to wait, but gosh I just don't know what to say. Anyone else young have a m/c and want to get pregnant asap afterwards even when you know its not the right time?

[Cowgirl~]

After the miscarriage i wasent try again i wanted to be but we started using protection so if iam this would not be on purpose and yea iam kind of worried but i know that ill be ok. and if iam me and my b/f do plan on getting our own place by then prolly not till right before the baby is born but we do plan on it. I understand where you are comming from but in my opinion it my life and if i think im ready then thats all that matters and it kinda puts people down when you say that kind of stuff just cause were younge does not mean anything and everything happens for a reason and if iam pregnant obviously god wants me to have this baby its his choice not anyone elses and if he wants to bless me with a baby then im going to take it.

[Linzola1]

I understand where yall are comming from but I think that having a baby is a personal choice and its not for anyone to judge but yourself.  I agian am 19 and married, but very recentally and I have wanted to have a baby with him for about a year and we were trying.  Everyone has a right to their oppinion, but it seems like tandria is trying to push it quite a bit. I just also had a m/c but I am trying agian. good luck to yall and dont let anyone try to tell you what to do.

[sara......]

Are you not worried that you still live with your parents and your boyfriend with his? Wouldn't you want to be set up in a house with your boyfriend before you get pregnant? It dosn't sound ideal - financially would you be able to live with your boyfriend before it's born and buy all the stuff the baby need, and pay rent, food etc etc. ?
I'm sorry for your loss, although I've never experienced miscarriage myself, I've seen women through my work (gynae. nurse) go through it and it's a terrible time.

[Cowgirl~]

well just because im not married does not mean im not in a commited relationship engaged is pretty committed and being together for 2 years or longer is pretty commited to me but yea anyways...

[tandria03]

I am so sorry for all of your losses.  I don't want to sound preachy at all, but I have to comment that while I am sure that all of you would have so much love to give to a baby, if you are still living with your parents and not in a lifelong commited relationship, you would not be giving a baby the best life it could have.  Wanting a baby is unfortunately not enough.  Raising a child is a huge responsibility, expense and commitment.  They cost so much more money than you could ever imagine and while money is not the point, having a father you are sure will be there for the rest of that babies life is so important.  The best life you could give your children is to be out on your own, in a commited relationship.  I know it is really hard when everyone around you are having babies, but please consider waiting until you are better prepared to provide for and raise a baby.  One of the very most important things about being a mother is putting yourself last.  That sometimes means choosing not to try to get pregnant when you are not ready even though you so greatly want a baby.  Like I say, please don't be offended.  I just wanted to comment.  I hope you all have someone you can trust to help you get through this really difficult time.  No matter how old you are, miscarriage is a painful and horrible thing, and no one should downplay it just because of your age.  God has a plan for all of us, hopefully these things are only to make us stronger and better people.

[Linzola1]

Hello. I am in the exact boat that you are. I am 19 and I m/c on Sept13 and everyone said the same thing oh no mistake. But it really wasnt. I didnt know what it felt like to be pregnant until i was and it was a wonderful feeling. i want it so badly so soon. I believe that if thiat is what you want then dont let anyone stand in your way. Its really hard when people around you friends and family are pregnant and you were the one that had the m/c. I am having symptoms agian and am hoping that I am pregnant but my test came out negative, but I could only be at the most 2 weeks prego. good luck in whatever you decide to do and I understand. If u need to talk i understand.