Babies last name..

[happy_glow]

Would it be dumb to give my daughter both my and her fathers last name? I am not too sure if her dad and I will stay together after she is here, and this way she can use my name instead of his , if we do separate. Or should I just go balls out, and just give her only mine? We aren't married, and in a rocky place, so in very unsure... Anyone in a similar situation?

[happy_glow]

Thank you guys.. This helps allot. Well of course of he was a good dad them I wouldn't deny him that. But I feel like he won't care to be.. Thank you guys

[ftmom2beaug28]

I agree with Kensleysmom, what he deserves as a father isnt related to your relationship. If he is going to be a part of her life I think the right thing to do is give baby both last names.

[mye3_kid]

My son will have both mine and his father's last name!

[1992Mama]

I personally have my grandfathers last name and my fathers last name because my mom was adopted and wanted to honor her dad for adopting her by passing on his name! I don't think it's stupid to have both names at all especially if you don't think your relationship will last

[Lindsmit]

My son has both last names. The only issue ive ever had is crossing the border with him. I live in canada and wanted to go to the states to go shopping. When i got to the border they let me know i needed a primary custody order or a not from the father giving me permission to cross the border. I now have a custody order so its not an issue. But i thought id give you a heads up.

[Lakita12]

I'm in the same situation . but i am giving my daughter my last name. he didn't like it at first but itold him that if we get married he will be changing BOTH our last names.. Not having his last name doesn't make him less of a father.. its just that if we decide to seperate she is coming with me.

[KensleysMom]

Well what type of father he is has nothing to do with how your relationship is with him. Fathers dont get the same bonding experience as we do during pregnancy. So if he is a great dad I wouldnt deny him that one thing.

[abigailsmomma]

My baby girl is getting both last names ... She doesn't have to go by both if we stay together, but if anything happens I want my last name in there

[juniorsmommyx3]

I'm giving my son both if not just mine. No way baby is gettint just his! I'm in the same type of situation you are.

[amandacovaleski]

im with my babys father and plan to be forever and even I considered hyphenating our sons last name as we arent married yet. that being said I think you can totally use any name you want! especially if you're not sure where you nd the father will be in the future

[mtasker]

I think you can deffinatly name your baby what ever you like! I think having a hifenaited last name is not a bad thing at all. I also think its totally dine to give baby just your last name. whatever you think is best for you two!