what would you do...

[LMNs_Mommy]

So I was with the father for 3.5 years before getting engaged after I came home from the military. As of December we are no longer together and this s.o.b has decided to take a trip to California with his other daughter knowing that our daughter is due literally anyday now. I am so tired of him and his family putting this baby on the back burner and trying to make things right when he sees im fed up and at my breaking point.. I just don't know what to do anymore and I cant take this agonizing heart breaking feeling anymore.. Advice/help please.

[LMNs_Mommy]

He's about to see that if he does not get it together asap he and his stupid family can pretebd that he only has one child.

[oxmbeav]

Honestly the best you can do is keep trying to have him involved, if he constantly shows that he doesnt care then dnt allow him to see your child. I left my daughters dad when i was two months pregnant and only time he would see how i was doing was if he was drunk and i honestly didnt care for him, he wasnt there when i gave birth to her either bt he did sign the birth certificate, my daughter is almost three and sees her dad maybe three times a year and its because i bug him to. Now that i dnt ask him to see her he tries saying im keeping her from him bt i told him if he wants to see her than to take me to court for visits cause its no more in and out of her life, he too has two other children and he makes them his first priority.. Men are selfish assholes bt eventually they come to

[LMNs_Mommy]

Thanks for the insight ladies!

[PreggoEggo93]

*towards him. My dad had a problem with drugs for a very long time and my mom didn't want to be with him. She never bad mouthed him or kept me from him even though there was so much hurt between them. I got the chance to live with him when I was 12 till almost 15 when he died. He was clean that whole time. If she had kept me from him I would never have gotten the chance to know him like I did and I'm so grateful she didn't

[PreggoEggo93]

I agree with giving the baby your last name but don't keep him from being involved in her life because of your feelings toward

[britt423]

I would say, 'If you leave, you could miss the baby being born.' If he still leaves, I would give the baby my last name and keep his p.o.s from having anything to do with my baby. Thats just me though.

[LMNs_Mommy]

I just can't believe he would leave for cali knowing that she's due and its not for anything important... its just for the heck of it.. I feel like he cares about one daughter more than the other and I don't understand...

[pinklie]

Im so sorry .. I for one think its super important my husband is there on the birth of our baby .. and hes a very busy man so I have stressed to him the importance it is to me .. he always says he would die first befor missing that day . But the thought of him missimg that day does make me sad cus knowing him idk ...

[mommylex]

I can't give you advice since I've never been in that situation but to answer your "What Would you do?" Question.... I would do the same.

I did it actually. The father of my daughter was a total douche and I mentioned that he wouldn't be on the birth certificate, so, at the last minute he came around and now that she's born he can't get enough.