Cant seem to stop feeling sad.

[laylo_seeds]

A couple of days ago my boyfriend and I got into a huge fight, which almost broke us up. The fight was over...me. I had quit my job at McDonalds to find a better paying job, well that never happened cause I found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend got a real good job and he says if I cleaned the house he would do the financial part. Kind of like the old time house wife deal. I said ok and things were great. I will admit I started to.slack on house cleaning, but we had two puppies that would destroy everything. We got rid of then two weeks ago, thank god..since then the house I kept in fair condition. Well, ive been having insecurities lately..my boyfriend keeps bragging about how all the girls at work wants him and how he and our room mate were looking at other girls, btw I hate our roommate.., and I asked him "do you want a future with me" he said he didn't know. I was heart broken. Then he got all offensive saying that he thinks im adding dumb questions and the reason why he doesn't see a future with me is because I don't clean like im suppose to, I smell (i take a shower every other day cause my skin drys out really bad, but he wouldn't believe me) and I was fat before I got pregnant. I was more then heartbroken I was crushed. He said I needed to do a 180 and I was so mad..cause hes real heavy set to.but it didn't count towards him. He went to work and I cleaned, showered..and it was an hour before he came home that one of our friends cane over..apparently he agreed with everything my boyfriend had said and continued to insult me. Saying if he was my boyfriend he would dump me and no other guy would want me besides my boyfriend and that my boyfriend loved me but isn't sure if he wants to be with some one like me..even though im carring his child...so im stuck.he had apologized since then...but I still feel depressed and deeply hurt all this over the house being a little messy sometimes...i can't look the other guy in the face cause he hurt me just as bad. I feel so alone and I hate it. I love my baby to death even though im only 17 weeks and im trying not to be so stressed for it.  Im trying to plan a date out with just me and him so that maybe we can reconnect..and hopefully ill stop feeling this way. I can't leave, I have no where to go..i just want to stop feeling like this..

[Mom2amiracle2012]

Some men feel powerful when they are in charge of all finances. If you feel insecure or trapped, I suggest you get a job. You should never feel dependent.

Secondly, if you do decide to do the whole "old time house wife" thing, as you put it, you probably should treat it as your real job. Keeping the house in fair condition isnt really doing your share. Most stay at home wives cook all meals, clean daily, do laundry, pay bills, run errands and take care of children.

Either way, I feel you should communicate. Feeling insecure in a relationship is not a joking matter. If he cant talk to you about this, what will you do about more serious problems in the future?

[mommyofaria]

I seriously just got teary eyed reading this...Smh men can be such jerks sometimes!!! He has no right to talk to you like that...when you love someone you shouldn't be hurt by them...you deserve WAY better than him...because honestly he's lucky to even have you and should feel like your the best thing that ever happened to him because your giving him a life!! Gosh I hate men...well you can't even call him a man because a real one would treat you like the queen that you are...you don't need him...you have your baby and it will love.you and adore you no matter what...and his roommate is just a jealous insecure jerk.!! Who needs to grow up and get his own place....your beautiful girl and your even more beautiful now that your pregnant.... Hold your head up high and move on :)

[laceylace_2004]

Let me tell you some insight, if it was true, he wouldn't be bragging about how all these girls want him and his roommate. That isnt how it works. There is a difference between females being nice, and he isnt God's gift to women. Maybe if he looked like Channing Tatum, but I doubt he does have any resemblence. , he didn't have a problem with the smell he is complaining about before that got you pregnant in the first place. If he couldn't stand the smell, he wouldnt have gotten you naked in thr first place and have close sexual contact. Since he is also complaining how your body was before pregnancy sure didnt stop him from getting turned on. I wouldn't put up with that girl! He needs to do the 180, or I would turn him a 360 out that damn door.

[marajean21]

My heart goes out to you. I've been through so much in my lifetime and this really hit home. If he didn't find you attractive, he would've never gotten with you. What a rotten attitude he has! And that roommate is so disrespectful. I can understand if your boyfriend is stressed about things, but he should never treat you like that. I hope things work out for the best, whether that be him pulling his head out of his butt or you doing your own thing.

[laylo_seeds]

Thank you so much. I do plan on finding a job, even if its back to McDonalds. I honestly miss being some ones special someone. He use to treat me like a princess, which was amazing because I came from a family who saw me as a bother. I feel like that again. My life is about my baby now..but its so hard cause ive always wanted a family. Im going to give it a couple of weeks before I make any huge decisions, maybe finding a job will turn things around, but if it doesnt then ya, I would have to just walk out..i have noone right now to tell me nice things, so thank you so much :-)

[VaneM]

I'm sorry but readying this I almost cried. This is just so disgusting. I don't know you but you do not deserve to be treated like this. Shoot right now you should be treated like a princess. And your baby should be your main priority right now. Don't stress your self over a man. And you can still get a job right now. Your only 17 weeks and it's illegal for them not to hire you. Belive me I would get a job because next thing you know he will be throwing that in your face that you depend on him and honey you should not depend on no man. And you ate beautiful !! And being pregnant makes you even more beautiful! And if he can't see thatayb you shouldn't be with him. I'm sorry for being so direct but come on deep inside you know you deserve way better!! No man should treat you like your not pretty nor worth his whole world

[laylo_seeds]

And I can't talk to him..hes the joking type and when I say "im trying to be serrious".he says "well im the joking type so you'll just have to.deal with it" I honesty am stuck.