lonely... help

[NinimarieDorsey]

My bf works allot to take care of us and prepare for the baby,  he works nights so he sleeps allot during the day but if he's not asleep or at work he's running around with his friends constantly. I feel like a last resort,  like it's so easy for him to put me on the back burner. I tried to talk to him about it and he apologizes but then turns around and does it again. I feel like he doesn't want to be with me for long periods of time.

[mama_luther]

My husband works out of town a lot and has been gone most of my pregnancy off and on (I'm 34 weeks and at my 32week appointment he finally met our doctor) when he is home he's working at the shop or at his dad's shop or he wants to go golfing sometimes he forgets that I need some time with him and we talk about it and he always says sorry but doesn't always remember to fix the problem it's not because he doesn't want to spend time with me but he also doesn't get any time for himself so i overlook it sometimes or we compromise if I'm really missing him!  Like he can go golf after he spends an hour or 2 with me and I'll go with him while he plays or I'll put my foot down and tell him I need him to stay with me and spend time with me just hafta learn a balance and it's not an easy task but the time you do get together even if it's just laying beside him while he sleeps is so precious to me I don't mind! I hope this encourages you and helps good luck and hang in there

[specialmom]

Ugh, that has to be annoying and make you sad both.  I'm sorry he is treating you this way.  It's one thing if he's working long, hard hours to support you, his family, but the running around with friends stuff is where I start to wonder about how someone will handle the time constraints a baby puts on you.  

My own husband like to go out like once a weekend before we had kids.  I, to be honest, never minded because I did my own thing on that night and it was no big deal.  But once we had our first baby, I sat down with him and asked him a serious question . . .   what kind of dad did he want to be?  Was his dad around for him or did he go out with his buddies?  He said his dad was always there.  And he wanted to be a good dad to his kids.  So, that one question "what kind of dad do you want to be" really made him stop and think.  It was HIS choice.  I wasn't telling him what to do.  Ya know?

Anyway, I wish you the very best with everything hon.  

[PonsGirl]

I kinda had that problem to and a woman on here told me to write all my feelings in a letter and give it to him. It really helped! He finally realized how upset I was and we started doing more things together. You may try it and see if it helps you. Good luck!