Decision to keep or abort

[law84]

Hi,

I am a 24 year old girl who is currently working as a law clerk and have just enrolled in my law degree by correspondence.  I have fallen pregnant i am nearly 12 weeks and i have been very stressed and sick with worry as to what i do with the baby. I am in a relationship with a guy for only a year but my ex still wont leave me alone which causes stress on the relationship. I have just brought my first house about a year ago with my twin sister and thats where i live now. If i choose to have the baby i will have to move out of home.

I am scared of what my future holds and dont want to be a failure to my family.

My nan thinks i am not ready for baby and has always wanted me to succeed in my career.

My mum and dad support whatever decision so does the father of the baby.  I am just scared of everything.

Please help.

[judylacar]

Very true Danielle, could not have said it better if I had tried

[danielle72007]

I find your comment very offensive... after reading my comment I realized that I had come about it the wrong way, and I apologized, I even sent a private message apoligizing to her.. and yes she should follow her heart.. I just dont' believe in abortion with that being said I should go about voicing my opinion in a different way... as for your comment about these are the types of people that are so miserable in their lives you are so incredibly wrong, I am not miserable in any way shape or form.. I will voice my opinion when I am asked, again I should do it in a positive manner, and I would not be standing outside an abortion clinic doing that to girls, it is their decision but when I'm asked I would tell them what I thought.. Most of these women on this forum either have children or are desperately trying to conceive, you should think about what you say before you come onto a forum like this when people want a baby soo desperately and are having trouble conceiving..

[LosingMyMindInGA]

No one goes into their first pregnancy KNOWING what to do...it's partly instinct and partly a learning process. I had my first child a month shy of my 19th birthday...the father fell out of the picture with record speed.  SHe is now 11 and I have never regretted the road i turned on to by choosing to have her.  There are millions of women all over the world who have children either alone or with the father and continue to pursue their career and other life goals.  It sounds like you have a strong support network, that is very important.  Take advantage of it.  This is a decision only you can make, but remember...even if you decide that you can't handle parenthood at this stage in your life there are thousands of couples out there who would be overjoyed to your child a loving, caring, stable home.  

[nikisinki]

wow, most of these women are very cruetial with their comments about this subject, but you know what, you shouldn't listen to them, honestly!!! whatever you are thinking deep within your heart, than that is what you need to listen to. if you want to have the baby, than have the baby, if you are leaning more towards the abortion, than have the abortion. if you are thinking of having the baby and than giving him/her up for adoption for another family, than do that., these people are very cruel with their comments, and you shouldn't get upset about them. these are the types of people that are so miserable in life and u would see on one of those picket lines outside of an abortion clinic trying to make girls feel bad about the decision that they had to make, so honestly hunny, do what ur heart is telling you to do, and that is the best advice that u will get, listen to your heart.

[mo41486]

Hello Iaw84.  I know you have a hard decision to make and no one can make it for you.  Have you heard the baby's heart beat yet???  If not, maybe you should go have a listen before making your decision.  Or, go for an ultra sound if you can.  At 12 weeks you'll see your baby's heart beating and you'll see him/her moving around.  I had an ultra sound done at 10 weeks and it was the most amazing thing ever.  You baby is alive in your uterus.  Just think about it before making your decision.  

[danielle72007]

I do not by any means agree with abortion.. I do not believe it is right to stop a beating heart, or even a heart that hasn't yet begun to beat.  You are pretty far along and I do believe there is evidence to show that your baby will feel the affects of abortion.. "The Silent Scream."  My sister found out she was pregnant at 15 and delivered her daughter at 16.  Yes, it is a life changing event and nothing will be the same but this baby or any baby for that matter is a blessing and I'm not exactly trying to be rude but Who are you to play God???  I had a miscarriage in Feb and would have done ANYTHING to carry my child to term and have him or her with me now, I wasn't given that choice.. Now I am almost 10 weeks pregnant and could not be happier, I don't understand how you couldn't feel some sort of bond with your child.. I love this baby more than anything already, there are no words to describe it, I can not even begin to express the happiness and joy I felt when I saw my baby on the ultrasound at 8w5d, I saw the heart beating and the baby even moved a little..there are soo many women who are on this forum and other forums that DESPERATELY want to have a baby but are having some problems and yet here you are pregnant and are conisdering abortion.. its beyond me to be brutally honest.. if you don't want this baby in your life give it up for adoption just please please dont' abort this baby.. I believe if you choose to have sex you should be prepared for what happens from that, hence A BABY... You can finish school and have a baby.. here I am finishing my basics and will then be back in July of 09' to go back to Nursing School.. you can do it.. it may be hard but you can do it.... I hope you choose to keep your baby...