Decision to keep or abort

[law84]

Hi,

I am a 24 year old girl who is currently working as a law clerk and have just enrolled in my law degree by correspondence.  I have fallen pregnant i am nearly 12 weeks and i have been very stressed and sick with worry as to what i do with the baby. I am in a relationship with a guy for only a year but my ex still wont leave me alone which causes stress on the relationship. I have just brought my first house about a year ago with my twin sister and thats where i live now. If i choose to have the baby i will have to move out of home.

I am scared of what my future holds and dont want to be a failure to my family.

My nan thinks i am not ready for baby and has always wanted me to succeed in my career.

My mum and dad support whatever decision so does the father of the baby.  I am just scared of everything.

Please help.

[law84]

for the record this is my first time on her and only come on here to get opinions and to help me face my problems and deal with it.

[adawning4]

I dont agree/believe in abortion! I think if you are old enough to lie down then you are old enough to stand up and take responsibility for your actions! I am 25 and have 2 children and one on the way..... It may be difficult having a child usually has its up and downs, good and bad... However I wouldnt change my children for anything in the world.... I dont understand how if you are buying the house with your sister, why will you need to move out? Why not just find a place  on your own then? I hope that your sister would not make you move out! I hope that you check into your options and what an abortion actually is! Can you live with yourself everyday knowing that you have taken that babies chance at a life and a future? If you dont want or dont think you can take care of your baby let someone else do it! Many families would love to be in your position only to have the baby would be a miracle for some. And women think that its ok to just get rid of their "problem". Honey its a baby with a heart beating inside of you, growing through you! Please just think very very long and hard before you decide. you can always finish school after you have the baby.... The baby should be more of a reason to further your carreer.  You are a woman, be strong and take care of your baby!!!!!!!!

[carissarae]

Hi-
i was 15 when i got pregnant with my daughter (shes 7 now) and i know how it feels for you to feel like you are going to disappoint people or be a "failure" BUT let me tell you. Its not like that at all, sure at first people might not be so fond of the idea of a baby, but it DOES NOT ruin your life.  I had my daughter, finished high school, went to beauty school and now am a manager of  hair salon, also preggo with #2! :) and i never imagined having a child so young, but she is the best thing that ever happened to me. i dont think you are ever really "ready" to have a baby, but its the best blessing in the world. please dont harm your baby, there is too many people in this world that CANT have babies. there is always adoption. please give your baby a chance to live a wonderful life even if its not with you!

[Jaces312]

It can be very scary to bring a child into the world when you feel as though you are not ready (is anyone ever really "ready"?) However, I can assure you that it is even more scary to abort one's own offspring and have to live with the guilt from doing so. But from the looks of it, you really dont want to, which is a good thing :-) Dont let anyone tell you that you are not ready to have your child, because quite honestly the fact that you are concerned for your unborn child shows that you ARE ready, in my opinion. I think you will be a great mom :-)

[law84]

yes i do have to move out as my sister does not want to live with me and a baby which i respect.

[cindy82]

hey, i dont think there is ever a time when you will have a clue weather you will be a good mom or not or   where  to start, even after 2 kids its still a learning experance to me. all i can say is look at your options, decide whats your heart tells you.