Decision to keep or abort

[law84]

Hi,

I am a 24 year old girl who is currently working as a law clerk and have just enrolled in my law degree by correspondence.  I have fallen pregnant i am nearly 12 weeks and i have been very stressed and sick with worry as to what i do with the baby. I am in a relationship with a guy for only a year but my ex still wont leave me alone which causes stress on the relationship. I have just brought my first house about a year ago with my twin sister and thats where i live now. If i choose to have the baby i will have to move out of home.

I am scared of what my future holds and dont want to be a failure to my family.

My nan thinks i am not ready for baby and has always wanted me to succeed in my career.

My mum and dad support whatever decision so does the father of the baby.  I am just scared of everything.

Please help.

[judylacar]

Ya'll, I am as much against abortion as all of you if not more, but if you really read what she is saying, I honestly don't think she wants to have an abortion, I think she needs reassuring that her career will still be here after the baby. There are some women on here like last night with that whole abortion thing that drove everyone mad, but I dunno, I just don't think she is really wanting to abort, I think she is scared, like all of us younger mothers, I am hoping anyway. It could be just I myself have had a miserably depressing day today also.

[smc1975]

Abortion is the most selfish thing u or any woman could do. there are so many woman out there that ache to hold a child of their own, My sister-in-law and brother would love to have a child, unfortunatly she is unable to get pregnant, and they would make wonderful parents. Im so tired of these so called adults coming on here asking about abortion. if you r not ready to have a child use a freaking condom and get on birth control pills or better yet DON'T HAVE SEX IT COULD CAUSE PREGNANCY. give a couple a chance of having a baby, and don't abort.

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I myself do not  believe in abortion.  Most on this forum don't.  All I can tell you is that I got pregnant for the first time when I was 17.  I was a senior in HS and had to tell my parents.  It was very difficult and scary but I did it.  I had him and he is now 14.  Did that change my life?  Yes it did.  Was that what I planned?  No, it was not.  But that's what happened and I'm not sorry.  My children are my life and truly my motivation.  They inspire me to be all I can be and to be the best that I can be.  Everyday I look at them and want them to be proud to call me mom.  I now have 5 children.  I have registered to go back to school twice and had to put it off because I ended up pregnant.  So what??  I just had to put it off for a while.  I do want a career someday.  There are things out there that I want to do.  There is more I have to offer, I think, than only being a mother.  But, I can't imagine putting my career before my children.  That's just how moms think.  We always put our children first.

I did recently complete a course through distance education for Real Estate Appraising.

Cindy,
Couldn't have said it better myself...

[beautifullychaotic]

You should listen to these ladies....I gotten pregnant at 18 had him at 19 got pregnant AGAIN at 19 and had my daughter at 20.  I went to school for cosmetology and did everything that I wanted to do.  I dont regret anything that I have ever done in my life.  My kids are my world..they are me.  If you open your legs...then take responsibility for your actions! Especially since you have a supporting family.  You can do this.  There are women on here that would love to even adopt if they cant have children....give them an opportunity to take care of a baby they cant have.  Adoption beats abortions ANYDAY!  Good luck and I hope you make a VERY wise decision!  

[judylacar]

If you decide to abort this baby, you will live with a lifetime of regrets, sorrow, and sadness, it will eat you alive. I understand you not being ready for a child, I was 18 and not ready for one either, but I had him and he is now almost 10 and my world. It seems like you want to have this baby, but you are worried about your career and the life you are working hard on building, but I can promise you this, your career will still be there after the baby is born, and having the baby will only make you want to suceed more so than ever before. If you just cannot deal with having the baby, please, I urge you to consider adoption, not abortion, I would do anything to have not m/c last month. There are women and families all over this world that are trying desperately to concieve children and may never get to where their only hope and chance is adoption.

[khightower]

I want a baby more than anything, but can understand that life can deal us both the complete oppisite. Just remember that you may not be ready for a baby-but someone else is! So it may not be suitable for you to raise a baby, but you can sure carry it for someone that may not be able to. It's only 9 months that you'd have to surrender you body and then you can make someones dreams come true!! Silly as it sounds watch the movie JUNO that just came out. It may help you to relate this to your emotions and someone elses, so that making this decision easier. It can all work out-just keep your chin up!
~KH