Depressed,Failed 7months TTC.

[thefebygirl]

we failed our 7th month TTC. my exp af will come on 30th, today got BFN. hubby hav low conts but still we left some hope for this month. he saved his swimmers for 14days. then we BD a day before my ovl that's all. I told him to keep up some "tips" to increase counts such as, no tea/coffe, wear shorts/dress pants instead of jeans, n' take multi vitamins daily etc. but he doesnt follow anything, may b he do but a day only. not reg. so i get very frastrated n' mad n' depressed(u can name it in this stage). i told him i dont want kids. he said "its not in my hand n' many ppl there wait for 10-15yers". i dont know now what i should do??

[thefebygirl]

thnakx. we found out that just to see the fertlty dr we need to $300.(we dont hv insur at this momen) so im thinking 2 just go to GNC n' get the med. what u think?? i serched reviews online, with success stories. my husb doesnt hv any other health prob. n' when we discuss this to one of reg dr(primary dr) he said "i cant say anything you should consult with a fertlity dr".

[BeeHappy76]

Don't lose hope - it will happen! It is super common to take 7 months or longer, so try not to worry too much. I know how frustrating it is, though.

Have you talked to a doctor about what to do about the low sperm count? My doctor said it is best not to wait too long to "save up" the sperm, because it starts to get old. He said ideally 48 hrs is a good time to wait to let it replenish, but longer than that it starts to get older and they start to die off. Also it can improve sperm count if the man ejaculates every 48 hrs throughout the month, because then it constantly replenishes. From the way it was explained to me, there are about 5 or so  "charges" sitting in there. So if the man only ejaculates once a week, the sperm will have been sitting in there for over a month before it comes out, and that can lead to lower quality or counts. But if they do it every other day, then the sperm coming out is only a week or two old at most making it better quality (and more still alive). On the other hand if they do it too often, then it doesn't have time to replenish. Best of luck to you!

[NicMom]

Hang in there it took us 9 months and I thought it was never going to happen. Funny enough the 9th month was the one I took off from ttc because of a vacation and needing a break. One thing I think helped and I've heard this from several other people is that dh was drinking protien shakes daily and we were both working out. Good luck.

[Canes19]

Yes we did consult the doc about my husbands vitamins. As a matter of fact the doctor recommended them to us first and with my last iui which was in febuary his sperm count was 20 million his last ejaculation was 3 days prior and this time with the 40 million his last ejuculation was 5 days prior. But gnc told me those vitamins are a best seller you should go ask someone at gnc

[thefebygirl]

Thankx bside i did stuff like this b4. but i didnt see he z ttaking any steps towards our goal. tht made me more anger/mad at him. plus, me, im 27, at the same age my mom had 2 kids. this will b our 1st one n' i really really dont want to wait after 30. im still sad abt all these specilly from his behavier. if i dont "push him" or "force him" he will nver do anything.

[thefebygirl]

thnkx. 40 was gret no. my husb's was 16 (20 or more is good). i hv a question, about taking fertility for men". yes i have heard alot success stories after using this prod. my question is tht before ur husb start to take the med, did he ask to a dr about this product?? coz 1st we thought to ask a fertility dr b4 we take OTC meds(specially on fertility) we concern abt side effects n' how long we need to take etc.. if any one can take this then def i will go to GNC

[thefebygirl]

i heard the other day about my friend's frind. they were not planning to hav a baby(they already hv 3 kids) but she got preg. n' had miscarriage recently. but we OMG trying trying  trying no luck. n' getting depressed like krazyyyyy

[mjmom69]

I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I hope you feel better soon. Your hubby is probably feeling the stress of it all and shows it differently than you do. Try not to get mad at him and give him a hug and tell him you love him no matter what but you hope he will try to do everything he can. He just needs encouragement sometimes also. Don't give up. It will be ok.

[Canes19]

Oops I meant to say my hubbys sperm count was 40 million

[Canes19]

Sorry to hear :-( I know bfn suck :-( have u ever considered IUI (inter-utarine insemanation) it deposits your husbands sperm inside of your uterus and would boost your chances being that your husband has a low sperm count. They run around 800$ per cycle. Not counting meds. You should really look into it. I am currently in my 2ww on my 4th iui and this month my husbands sperm count was 40. He doesn't have low sperm count but my doc still recommended that he start taking vitamins. They are called "fertility blend for men" and you can get them at GNC. Goodluck

[angelicbaby]

try not to stress.. make it more fun to BD! dress up role play. cuz maybe he is feeling like it's a job and ur like his mom... I know u want a baby sooo bad! ugh. i don't understand why it has to be so hard for some of us

[thefebygirl]

i told him already not once everyday. i think he got "tired" of me "bossing" him. with "do's n' don'ts". however, he SHOULD understand this with me. we had fights over n' was soo horrible. now im tired of ttc, n' quiting from it, but at the same time, really want to have a baby sooo bad. :(

[angelicbaby]

aww soo sorry to hear! MY AF was due today and took a PG and got a stupid BFN! :(

Tell ur husband he has to work with u! he has the low sperm count so he has to follow the tips to maximize on success