I am 30 years old and the only elevated risk I have is due to abnormal blood test and u/s. Baby has ecogenic bowel. Its a soft marker for Downs. My triple screen test came back 1:170 but with the abnormal u/s the results are much higher.
Are you at elevated risk? Are you over 35?
My take is: just be honest. This sounds like one of the many arguments in marriage where a compromise isn't an option. Someone is going to get their way.
If it's worth it to you to deal with the aftermath of a disappointed husband, then take the test. Realistically, he'll get over it eventually. At the same time: if he really doesn't want to know the results, respect his wishes and don't share the news.
If it were me, I wouldn't take the test. Especially if you're not any elevated risk and just enjoy the pregnancy. But, no one will judge you either way. I think we women tend to be pleasers to a fault; we bend over backwards to make everyone else happy above us. You're 50% of the relationship, so your thoughts matter and should be weighed alongside his is how I see it.
All the best to you!
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Ok so I posted a few weeks ago about my mid point ultrasound that was done at 17.5 weeks. Well baby girl has ecogenic bowel. I was told that it could be nothing and was advised to take a blood test to determine if baby has downs or cystic fibrosis. Well I took the test a few weeks ago and tried calling for the results and was told that only a doctor can give those to me:( Well since the doctor never called I had assumed that everything was fine. Well today I found out the had been trying to call for the last week and a half. My results were abnormal:( I broke down and started bawling to my doctor. The results were 1:170, but I was told they were really higher because of abnormal ultrasound. I know there is a chance that my baby is fine but in the back of my head I am fearing the worst. I have an appointment to talk with a genic conselor again to set up an amnio. I have always turned down those stupid blood test because I know that they can scare you when nothing is wrong. And now I take it and sure enough. I called my MIL after my appointment today to ask her to watch my kids while I go see the genic conselor on Monday and she asked what I was going to do if baby does have downs? I almost ripped her head off!! What am I going to do? Seriously!! I asked her what she would do and she said she didnt know because she has never been in that situation before. I wanted to kill when she said that it would be alot of work and hinted abortion!! I dont know how I will do it but I will have to because there is no way that I could ever abort!! I feel her move for goodness sakes!! Not that I could ever do it even if I werent so far along, I just dont belive in it. I just need some hope ladies. Has anyone ever had abnormal ultrasound and triple screen test and nothing be wrong???? I just feel that I had three perfect and healthy boys and now I get the girl that I have always wanted and look what happens?? Have I tempted fate one too many times????
I missed a few words....sorry. If it's NOT going to change........ if it turns out you didn't NEED to..... I hope that clarifies a little.
I personally would not do it. I would try to prepare myself mentally first and foremost. If it's going to change the outcome I wouldn't going through with the procedure. You will still love your precious baby either way and it will be a learning process when the little one arrives whether you know they have it or not. I would just try to prepare for it and if it turns out you didn't to......oh well. Just my opinion. Good luck!!
If it was me, I would go ahead and do it. but i would be super scared and def. would be my hubby there.....I dont know alot about DS and what or if extra care they need, but if she does i would want to know EVERYTHING about it and what extra care she maybe need, you know? I hope he changes his mine......