Divorce whn pregnant?

[mandydavs]

Dear kind ladies, wld b grateful for ur opinion. Husband n i are married for 3 months. I am 9 weeks pregnant. After wedding n honeymoon we live separately, like 30 hrs flight away cos he works in different part of d world, so we haven't even started livin as a couple. Had a big fight caused by same old trust issue that's bn haunting us for yrs, and nw we're thinking of a divorce. I haven't decided when's best to file, should i wait til after the baby is born or file it right away? i want to do what's best for d baby in terms of his/her rights in the future and all the explanation i one day hav to give to the little one. I know d best might be to stay in d marriage? But tat will torture me as i know husband is hopeless. He doesn't seem to grow to love d baby, refused to get involved in d pregnancy and he speaks abt d baby as if he is not d father (very impersonal). Thanks for anyone out there who's willing to comment, much appreciated!

[rebeccaann11]

Good luck hun!

[mandydavs]

thank u, counseling will only happen if he agree. in this case i dun think he will. but thanks for suggesting

[rebeccaann11]

Marriage will cause a lot of stress on, couples.

Also!! I've heard the first year or 2 of living together csn be stressful bc you have to get used to each other.
Maybe try counseling First to make sure you two can't work out.

[mandydavs]

thank u. I do love him n many ppl believe tat he loves me, but he has issue with anger. whenever he feel poked he will be very abusive, verbally though. we just got married so i dunno if things might change. but i'm so in pain with how he treats me and how he doesn't want to know anything about the baby .

[Kjens12]

I honestly believe if it is going to happen anyway, you should just get divorced now and save yourself the stress later. When he wants to be a part of the babies life he will find a way to be. I would imagine it's hard for him to connect so far away, but when the baby is here I'm sure it will change. If you believe divorce is happening one way or another I'd suggest getting it over with now. I don't see a reason to wait, but I'm also not in your situation so it's hard to say for certain without all the facts. Good luck and I hope things improve!