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[stinaann93]

Is on the verge of breaking my husband and I up.... i have three stepdaughters but the six year old has decided she no longer likes me due to her father disaplining her when she stole from me and blamed her sister... she has told every one she hates me, myself included and says its because she doesnt get her way and that jer daddy would never ground her. Which in this case he did. I asked her if she told me she loved me because she wanted something to say and she said yes! Wtf? I love these girls to death but im heartbroken. And now my husbands all im gunna have to figure something out or choose between you and her..... what do I do?! Im 7 and 1/2 months pregnant with our son.....

[kasiadiane]

She's just a baby still. Reacting to a punishment she's not used of getting. She will get over it in time and it will be like it never happened. Kids do bratty things sometimes but its because of wanting attention or there is something wrong in her life and she is acting out. If you and your husband truly love one another you will work through this together and grow stronger as a couple and as parents. Best of luck to you hun! Parenting is tricky especially when there are step children involved.

[thirdandlastbaby]

Hunny my own son was telling me he hated me between 3 and 4 everytime I would disapline him because he was mad. Some kid at daycare said it and he picked it up. It finally passed after the last time he said it I spanked him and then went back and told him how much it hurt me when he said it. Haven't had that problem since. Of course when the kids become teenagers I'm sure I will hear it more, but when that time comes I will deal with it again. Just tell your hubby its just a way to get what she wants (which in this case would be ungrounded and to have her daddy at her beck and call) and that if she would have stole from her sister and he grounded her for that it would be the same thing and she would be saying she hates her sister. Its not like he could choose one daughter over the other.

[Ftm1994]

Sounds like a stage thing. My sister is 15 years old (the baby) and she still acts like this. She also gets what she wants until recently my parents grounded her for calling her nephew a ******* child. Which I know who my baby's father is. He is just not in the picture due to his stupid mistakes.

[InsaneRoman]

I'm dreading the first time my kid says they hate me. :( But kids are kids. She's 6 and just being a brat because she didn't get her way. She should get used to it, honestly. And I'm sure she loves you, hun, even if she's saying mean things in her grudge right now. :) If your husband chooses to dote on his daughter as if it's ok for her to steal and treat others poorly because she'll get away with it, then you're probably better off without him trying to undermine everything you do. What I mean is, if he chooses his kid's hissy fit over his wife, you should probably leave anyway. I don't think that'll happen because she should get over it rather quickly.

[Danilynn617]

She's 6 more than likely she's just saying this right now because she's still angry about it. Either she will forget about it or hold a grudge but I'm sure she doesn't mean she actually hates you. Little kids say that all the time to make you feel bad as retaliation

[Nina159]

That's hard :/ but he did right she can't learn its good to take stuff if he didn't stop her here then where would she end up give her time she 6 I'm sure she forget and he should keep teaching her right for wrong and that she can't get away with everything