Marines.. :(

[torilouise11]

So I'm currently 24 weeks. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years. But in 25 days he's leaving for basic for the marines. My due date is February 11th. He'll be gone for that. That aspect of it I can deal with. I'll have more tthan enough people there. Its just him leaving.. I'm having such a hard dealing with this. Having the extra sensitive hormones right now is helping too much. Any military wives/girlfriends who can give a few words of wisdom. I want to support him. I do. But its hard to do that when I'm so upset about it. I'm not worried about us not making it. I have 100% faith in us. Its just my heart is breaking just thinking about him not being here...

[darthmander]

Ps: my cousin was in the marines for 20+ years and when his wife went into labor they let him come home. Some military forces will allow for the spouce to come for delivery even if its only for a few hours.

[darthmander]

Mine isn't as bad as yours. But my husband is going to work offshore. Which means he will be gone a month and be home for 2 weeks. I'm happy bc its a nice paying job and would support our little family. I'm just stressed as well about the whole gone for a month thing and worried that he won't be there dor delivery. But as long as I have a supportive family with me I'm going to be fine.

[shinieshoes]

My hubs had been in for 8 years now! He's a SSGT now but I still remember those pfc days lol! I still remember all the stress of bootcamp. We didn't have kids yet but it was still difficult. Go online and print out a Marine Corps training matrix. It will tell you what they do everyday that he's there! You could try to sneak it to him in one of your letters! That's what I did he said it really helped! Also don't send letters with perfume on it. He'll get Crap for it lol.  everything that teregarcalva said pretty much sums it up though! Word of advice for when he gets in the fleet... Tell him to always act like the rank above him! Take care of his junior Marines and try to get things done before he's asked. My husband has been very successful by doing this. He was in a gunny billet when he was a sergeant!  Marine Corps is unfortunately alot of politics. So once he's learns how to play the game he will do great!  Also tell him to work on those pull ups right now. He needs 20 and they s u c k! Personal Fitness Test score in the early days is important for getting promoted quicker! Also tell him to do lots of MCIs! They're little work books and test they are suppose to complete!  I'm sure this doesn't help much in the way of your original question but it will help later! Feel free to message me if you have any questions!

[melissaleedy0404]

When my husband left for basic was in March and we have a 2 year old. It was hard bc she really missed daddy and that ate me up. And then my gma died 5days after he left. Hardest thing iv dealt with but you have to remember you will see him again. You'll be ok love

[TayyB2706]

I am a military wife .. have been for 6yrs now and when my husband went to boot camp we had been together for 3yrs and I was pregnant with our son .. he missed the majority of my pregnancy but was home in time for the birth of our son .. it was hard but we used to write each other every chance we got.. we never talked about the bad times he never told about what he went through until recently but the one thing he always says is that my letters and pictures are what grit him through .. we've also been through 3 deployments together .. its just something that comes with the territory and something thay Ull haveto gget used too .. just always remember that you are what he needs to survive .. u think you have it bad .. he has it 10 times worst .. we just have to deal with missing them but at least were in our familiar environment .. it will get hard at times but you guys can get through it just try not to let ur true feelings show .. support him no matter what because what he's doing is for the better of you and you unborn child

[ladylefay]

I am a military wife now for almost 3 years and we have done a deployment and he is in training right now gone all the time and I am 32 weeks pregnant and its hard to know they can leave, mine deploys again when our daughter is only going to only be about 5 month old, thinking of it is hard and he is upset he will miss her first birthday and milestones. But we know we will make it we are each other support and I always tell him to do what he needs to fulfill his life. I don't want him to hold back because he thinks we wont love him or love him less. If you ever need to talk let me know I know its hard and to have someone to relate and to have baby play dates can make the world of a difference sometimes!

[teregarcalva]

It's very hard I'm not going to lie my husband has been in for 2 years and when he left for basic we had a 2 year old and it was the hardest thing ever! I guarantee it's a lot harder for him especially the first 2 weeks because they treat them like dogs. At first you'll get the hate letters and he's gonna sound very sad and depressed but the it gets better as time goes by. You need to be strong for him because he'll be at his weakest. Never tell him about bad things only good and remind him of how much you love him constantly, he's under a lot of pressure and a whole lot more stress. Remind him of happy times you spent together or tell him of the good days you had, spend him pictures of your belly and the baby once baby is born. It's one of the hardest things ever but I swear to you it's so worth it. I was with my husband since I was 14 and I am now 20 and he has changed so much once he joined and for the the better. Write him everyday if possible because those letters are what's gonna get him through the day. 12 weeks seems very long but try to stay busy and not dwell on the pain of him being gone. Remember one day down is another day closer to seeing him and a Marine is only as strong as the woman he left back home. If you ever need to talk I'm here ok hun stay strong.