Unfortunately, you can't. I know from experience. I also lost my first, but I went on to have a healthy baby girl (who is now 2), and I'm pregnant again.:) Just so you know, 30% of women miscarry their first pregnancy. And having 1 miscarriage doesn't make you statistically anymore lik3ly to have another miscarriage than someone who has never miscarried. Just stay hopeful, every pregnancy is different.xx