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Found a number
So I'm going to do the laundry and I was emptying all the pockets of the clothes. And as I was emptying my boyfriend's pants pocket I found some money (I'm keeping that of course) and a crumbled receipt with a girls name and phone number written on it... Should I be worried? What actions do I take without saying the wrong things? Advice anyone?
I would keep that number and then confront him about it. If he says it's nothing like what you think just take it at that. But watch him..if he is doing what he shouldn't then the truth will come out. Watch how he treats you. Is he still loving/caring or is he distant? A sudden change in how he treats you can show what's going on too.
No no flipping out gets you no where. This exact same thing happend to me I was washing his work clothes and I found a number. As soon as he got home I started flipping out. He got the number called it and it was a girl from his store. It wasn't even her private number it was the store number and it was his boss.
Girl call that number I don't care what nobody said cuz if u had a number I bet he would be actn a fool
My fiance is a DJ on the weekends. He gets girls walking into the booth flirting and handing him their numbers, it's not because he's a bad partner, it just means women are attracted to him (which actually makes me feel good, it doesn't threaten me). He's got to keep the booth clean for himself and the other DJs so pieces of paper (requests, phone numbers, drink tickets, receipts) get stuffed in his pocket, sometimes he'll empty his own pockets and sometimes I'll find things he missed. I know he's a good man and he comes home to me every night, so I have nothing to fear from any girl who wants to flirt with him.
It's just a phone number, if you're worried about it ask. It could be anything. Could be a harmless flirt, or an old friend, or a business contact - you have no idea unless you ask. Don't make accusations, don't get all bent out of shape about it, don't be threatened by something when you have zero idea what the context is. Is he a good man? Do you trust him? If you did, you probably wouldn't be asking - and if you don't, it probably has to do with more than a phone number. If there's more to the story, you probably should get to the bottom of the trust question first, before you are parenting a child together.
It's just a phone number, if you're worried about it ask. It could be anything. Could be a harmless flirt, or an old friend, or a business contact - you have no idea unless you ask. Don't make accusations, don't get all bent out of shape about it, don't be threatened by something when you have zero idea what the context is. Is he a good man? Do you trust him? If you did, you probably wouldn't be asking - and if you don't, it probably has to do with more than a phone number. If there's more to the story, you probably should get to the bottom of the trust question first, before you are parenting a child together.
Dont just trash it shred or burn it that way u will know for sure she was Never contacted!
I agree with the girl above me. But don't give him the piece of paper or throw it away. You may need it later if you have to call the number and see who it is
Ignoring the problem by throwing away the number doesn't change what was done. Important or not, good boyfriends dont get random girl's numbers.
On the other hand, this might be more innocent then him flirting with some girl and getting her number. Only you will be able to know that because ONLY YOU really know him, we dont.
My suggestion is to confront him rationally. Don't go over the top, make a scene or yell. Men use that "dramatic steriotypial girl response" as ammo to revert away from their wrong doing! Sit him down, by yourselves and ask him who is this girl. This might be a client, friend from his childhood, etc. None of us can tell you that. And you will have plenty who will play devil's advocate and make you think he is the scum of the earth. In my opinion, you know your man. You know if he is truly trustworthy or not, how has he been with you lately (has he been emotionall and/or sexually withdrawn from you?) and how he normally is with you. Think about the little things ya know.. It will add up.
On the other hand, this might be more innocent then him flirting with some girl and getting her number. Only you will be able to know that because ONLY YOU really know him, we dont.
My suggestion is to confront him rationally. Don't go over the top, make a scene or yell. Men use that "dramatic steriotypial girl response" as ammo to revert away from their wrong doing! Sit him down, by yourselves and ask him who is this girl. This might be a client, friend from his childhood, etc. None of us can tell you that. And you will have plenty who will play devil's advocate and make you think he is the scum of the earth. In my opinion, you know your man. You know if he is truly trustworthy or not, how has he been with you lately (has he been emotionall and/or sexually withdrawn from you?) and how he normally is with you. Think about the little things ya know.. It will add up.
Don't get upset about it. Just let him know like its no big deal hand it to him and just be like "here honey I found this in your pocket I didn't want to wash it" then when he takes it just be like who is that. Its happened to me before like twice with my bf but its usually when he gets a new job and its hisboss he always gets their number just iin case of emergency. Could be anything don't stress unless he gives you a sketchy answer
I work at a gas station and I'm very polite with a high voice and bright eyes. Translation? Number magnet.
I get guys ALL the time coming up to me with their numbers on lottery slips, receipts, a few cards with winky faces on the back, once a 10$ bill I got as a tip. I just put them in my pocket cuz it's safer in MY garbage than ours, which people love to rummage through. I have only texted one of them back, cuz now I'm single again and have thought he was cute since I started there a year ago lmao.
If it REALLY bothers you, you could ask him. But be prepared for the battle royale of your relationship.
I get guys ALL the time coming up to me with their numbers on lottery slips, receipts, a few cards with winky faces on the back, once a 10$ bill I got as a tip. I just put them in my pocket cuz it's safer in MY garbage than ours, which people love to rummage through. I have only texted one of them back, cuz now I'm single again and have thought he was cute since I started there a year ago lmao.
If it REALLY bothers you, you could ask him. But be prepared for the battle royale of your relationship.
I would try not to get too upset and calmly ask him when he gets home. I would say "hey honey i was doing laundry and found this in your pants, is it.important or can i toss it?" Then see what he says
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