Giving up baby

[4Nheaven1here]

Question: Do you think its wrong to want to give up a baby because it's special?

[Fe411Fe]

Do you know the percentage of children with special needs that are given up that actually get adopted? It's under 15%, yes there are some people who want a child so they will take what ever the agency gives them. But a lot of people won't adopt a child with special needs, they just sit at the adoption agency and get to watch all the "normal" kids go to loving homes. And statistically when a family does adopt a child with special needs 75% of them return them because they are too difficult to deal with. I'm a nursing student minoring is social work and this is some of the stuff we learn.

[glorianna9]

I think kids with mental handicaps are very amazing kids we have so much to learn from them but some mommas just can't do it being so young and a lot don't have any support. Nobody knows the entire back story... And nobody should be so quick to judge. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. All I think is if the baby is going to be given a better life through adoption there isn't a thing wrong with that. But yes I wish parents wouldn't give their babies up just because they have down syndrome or autism. There is nothing wrong with that child. You should love them just the same.

[Fe411Fe]

I absolutely think it's wrong. Every child is special in there own way, some just have more needs than others. Just because the child needs more attention, or won't act or look like the perfect child you hoped for doesn't mean you should just give them up or abort them. That child might be the best thing that has ever happened to you. My cousin has Down syndrome and that boy has not only made his parents more kind and patient but all of us. We take more time to listen to not just him but others in our lives because we know how special it is to take time and really understand what they are trying to say to us. I wouldn't wish any child to intentionally have a mental disability or anything of the sort but my cousin is the best thing that has ever happened to my family.

[glorianna9]

I think everybody is entitled to do whatever they please. People are so quick to throw god in there and point here fingers and judge. If the mother knows that she isn't going to give that baby all the nurturing and love and finances hat it needs then no there isn't anything wrong with that. So many ladies say they would do anything for their baby. I believe giving up your baby so it can have a better life is the best gift you can. I personally couldn't do it but mothers that do and I'm not talking about selfish reasons, I hold the highest respect for. Lots of families would kill to take that child in. That in itself is a blessing .

[ciera1350]

And just to throw this in there I know a lot of people are saying god brought the special needs child into this world because he knew that person could handle it. BUT that may not be his plan. He gives every one of us the option of free will. And you don't know maybe it was in his plan to give this life to a woman and let her make the choice to give that child to a family that could take care of it and handle it even better. Yes he has a plan, and maybe it was for that family to be given the special needs child. It's not selfish, it's selfless to know in your heart that this baby will have a better life with someone else then what you could ever give to it. And in turn that could have been gods plan all along. Every single thing and decision we make happens for a reason. He gave us free will for a reason.

[Mommy24721]

No hun its not wrong if u feel u do not have that kind of patients yea do it if u think it is what is best for the baby not thinking of urself just the kid in this situation it would b a very hard decision to make but it is fine to give the baby up for adoption but as far as an abortion i disagree because if u don't want the baby someone else surly will and will love it just the same it is in my opinion not right to have an abortion unless it is medically necessary for u to live it is hard to make that decision nd if u have one u will have to look in the mirror every day and ask urself was i right to do that to.my baby?! My mom still gets sad about having an abortion when she was 16 but she was raped and was scared she had nowhere to live and had a father who sexually harassed her after she said she was raped he said by who ill kill him only i can do that to u...he had previously raped my aunt when my mom was 14 so she had already been scared of him but she wanted to get out and after that she did she ran away but she feels very guilty and sad that she did that and she said that is the hardest thing she has ever had to do...but this isn't a place for judgement women obviously have their reasonings and such but i could never live with myself if i did that...it is completely up to the mother of the child if she can look at herself in the mirror and b happy with what she sees afterwards then fine but i just know that isn't an opinion for me I've lost three babies and couldn't bare to loose one by choice :/