HOW TO TELL A CHILD???

[Netta90]

My fiance has a child in a previous relationship, && so do i! But his child mother is telling his 6 year old that my unborn daughter is not his baby!, She is not having a baby sister. Etc. This little was so excited that she was having a baby sister && now she is obviously confused and hurt. Because she has one parent saying you're having a baby sister && has another parent telling her she doesn't!! She's six! The bitterness && jealousy is affecting the child. How can he get his daughter to understand that she's having a sister without her not trying to go against what her mother is telling her??? Anyone else know or experience this?? Because i don't know what to tell my fiance. I've never done my child like that with his dad other kids so any suggestions or advice???

[muhshe]

Your welcome Netta :)

[Netta90]

Thanks muhshe

[muhshe]

I would break it down for the daughter. . Explain to her what makes your baby her sister then have her tell you what she thinks a sister is. Try to encourage her not to bring it up to the bio mother as really its none of her business especially if shes not going to reinforce the facts. Kids are smart and if you let them make the choice about what is right or feels like right they usually make the right choice. Goid luck thats a crummy spot to be in.

[Netta90]

Think

[Netta90]

*anything

[Netta90]

I totally agree with you ladies! But i don't anything will change unti the little girl actually sees my daughter in June! That way she physically can hold her and bond with her!

[taianasmum]

Definitely he needs to confront the mom and let her know that it is not right to take her selfishness out on the child. they should go to a co parenting class that helps them learn how to deal with new family's

[calimommy00]

And no, don't confront her. Not a good idea. Thats gonna create more mess

[calimommy00]

Oh she is ignorant. Why would she do that to a 6 year old. Confusing the poor lil girl. Sounds like shes just mad b/c he moved on and is having another child. #drama

[Ajoyce10]

Our Kids Are 7 And 8 Btw

[Ajoyce10]

You Need To Confront Her Mother. We've Had Issues With My Husbands Ex WifeTelling The Kids I'm Not There Mother And My Kids Aren't There Siblings And In The Same Sentence Calling Their Step Father Dadd. We Tried Talking To Her But When That Didn't Work We Decided We Would Just Explain To The Kids That Their Mom Doesn't Always Tell The Truth And It Was Up To Them If They Call Me Mommy Or not.

[Netta90]

Yes, he explained to her before but her mother is going behind what he is telling her! So idk??

[mamaMcAnulty]

I told my step daughter how my baby was going to be her sister

[PBaby1]

Perhaps explain what a half sister is?