'Father' - ultrasound --- name??

[Danni1415]

The PERSUMED father of my baby is wanting to come to my ultrasound in 2 weeks to find out gender.

We are not positive it's his(2guys 1 week apart). My doctor is going with the date we had sex. He was not happy to hear I was pregnant. He already has 2 kids. But he says he has come to terms with I'm pregnant and it might be his. For some odd reason I do believe this baby is his.

He has asked me questions bout what the baby's last name will be.. And tells me some names he likes.. He has Scandinavin and likes Scandinavin names. His and his 2 kids are Scandinavin. He wants me to name this on from that too..
We have had ups and downs through this whole pregnancy.

I'm not really caring bout the other guy and his opion nor do I care. Haven't talked to him for some and he doesn't care.

My questions-- 1) do I let him go to my ultrasound? What if the baby ends up not being his..

2) the whole name thing.. I like names and don't really care where they are from. And want to give baby my last name. I think my last name is the way to go since we will need a DNA test to see if is even his. I would hate to give baby his last name and not be his.. My last name just seems to be the right choice.
3) do I let him help with the first name?

[Danni1415]

Yeah I suppose you both are right bout letting him go to the appointment.. And my first daughter has my x's last name and I regret it deeply! He was cheating on me the whole time with my best friend and step sister. And now he's with my step sister. And chooses her over seeing his child. Wish I could change her last name just because I hate saying his last name. And could become complicated once she's in school. As far as she knows now though her last name is my last name.. Don't want make the same mistake with that twice.. Thank you

[Tuchmiknot]

Just my opinion let him support u as much as he wants too no pressure and name your baby what u want with your last name just so if the other guy comes on the picture he won't be reminded everyday of the past. And name change is complicated. I have a friend who did the opposite and now her girl his the wrong last name four years later and her dad hates it. And the other guys sis is pregnant now with the true first g baby but not the first to past the name and she is upset too. And they love on the same school district so they will have this issue for life because she can't afford the last name change  

[Toriiee]

Let him go, he knows there's a chance the baby's not his but he's showin he still wants to be there nd then he must care in some way... Tell him that yu would rather baby have yur last name till yu no fursure if he's the dad or not nd if he is yu guys can always change it after.. as for the first name, let him give yu his opinions on Wat he likes, mby Yull fall in love wit something he chooses :) good luck

[Danni1415]

Think I would feel bad denying him the right to bond with his child in the womb if he wants to or tries if ends up being his..