How many kids do you want

[mamaofonetrying42]

I'm having a really hard time with this. I really thought that I only wanted 3. But that baby itch is back and has been. I dont know if it the chance to have a girl...I'm just worried that I will always want another one. I love being pregnant and the hold L&D too, I JUST LOVE IT ALL. Crazy Yes, Crazy to have 4 kids, Yes. I am one of four myself and I remember telling my mom that she was Carzy for having 4 kids! Why in the worked, would anyone want to have 4 kids?

I do love having all my sister's, being able to share everything. My parents give us what they could, but also made us work for the things we wanted, maybe in some way making us a better person...? I want to be able to give my kids everything but I also want them to work for it. I dont want things just handed to them.....Ahhh.

I'm having another one ;)

[mamaofonetrying42]

I voted 4 :) Then hopefully Im done ;) Hahaha, I have to be.

[mami2karina]

I'm pregnant with my 4th right now and sadly getting my tubes tied because of health issues. But I know in a few years I'm going to be sad and get that baby itch again lol!

[Clysta]

I've had odd thoughts and such, but we definitely only want 1 baby. It gives up the ability to do more together, we have more money to do things, etc. While she won't be handed everything she asks for (neither me nor my husband like that idea. We both worked hard for what we have) it will be easier to provide her with the life we didn't have either. I grew up very poor and don't want her to have the same.

[mamaofonetrying42]

mami2karina- I would never get my tubers tied but thats just me, I prob should...cant do anything about wanting another one after that!! :) Congrats on #4


Clysta- Am I wrong, I thought you wanted to have another one? You had a hard pregnancy with your 1st ...right? Or am I thinking of another person?

[chantal21]

I voted 5 but ultimately it's up to God because I have no control over it. Suffering 2 miscarriages, had a healthy boy, bedrest with #2 and then having him pass away at almost 11 months old, preggo again with #3 and on bedrest again, we aren't guaranteed any or the number we want, so I leave it all up to God. For all I know I may only ever have 2 living children or could end up with 6. haha who knows!! But if I could choose, I would say 4-5 sounds good to me.

[Clysta]

No no. I have random thoughts I entertain and part of me simi considered another. At the end of the day though, I have no desire for more and am more than happy with my one. :)

It was a rough pregnancy, but only in the fact that I was so sick all the time and had trouble with dehydration and weight--and malnutrition. She was sucking everything from my body. I was blessed that I had no bleeding, preterm labour problems or anything else.

[mamaofonetrying42]

Chantal- You are right, We never know....

Clysta- Okay, I see.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I voted 6+.  I have 6 but one was a stillborn.  I'd like to have one more to make 6 living children.

[mami2karina]

I really don't want to get my tubes tied but I have fibromylagia, cervical cancer removed twice and so other issues. I'm having to do injections to prevent preterm delivery. My doctor thinks it's best. I know I'm going to regret it but I have to have it done :(

[Tryingforbaby2]

I voted 3 because that is all I can hope for now. I always wanted 2 or 4 but it took me 4 years to get preg with my 1st  and that really set me back. I then mc after him and finally had to seek fertility treatment for #2. I am getting older and don't want to deal with fertility specialists anymore so hope I will get #3 on my own and then be done with the stress. If I only have 2 I will be fine but I don't really want to be done. Dh is fine with 2 so we will just have to see.

[mamaofonetrying42]

Def. Understandable(sp) Mami2karina.

LosingmymindinG- I dont know how you do it ;)

Tryingforbaby2- I hope you get #3 too, good luck :)

[NicMom]

I have a really hard time being pregnant, but love having lots of siblings! My dh only has one sister and when they fight they don't really have anyone to turn to who understands that family. With my siblings there is always someone there for you. So that said 2 down, 1 in the oven and 1 more planned for late 2012.

[Ashelen]

We wanted 3 originally and my hubby was going to get a vasectomy after we have #3 (which we're going to start TTC for soon!) but now I think I may end up wanting another in 5-10 years when my littlest is off to school...you just never know so...at LEAST 3 for us, maybe more...? i've had some difficulties with both pregnancies, and I've had a miscarriage and several "chemical pregnancies" but I really don't want to get to the end of my life, look back and think "our family was never complete", you know? Whatever you want in life, go for it; you may struggle harder when you reach high, but at least when you get to the summit you know you've climbed as high as you can, and you'll have fewer regrets.  

[sweetpea03]

I voted on 2. I don't have any children yet, still finishing my degree, but my fiance and I want 2 kids, maximum 3. I feel like with an only child, they tend to get very spoiled and don't have a built in playmate, and I want that for my children. I am from a family of 3 siblings and the middle child tends to hate it(my brother), so don't really want 3 either, so 2 is the 'magic number' for us. My fiance is from a family of 5 siblings and definitely does not want that many. We want to be able to have the good one on one time with the kids and give them a great life. We would love to go on family vacations and go out with the kids, which may not be possible if we have more children and then couldn't afford it. I know with my own family growing up, we went on some great family vacations and I had an amazing childhood. My fiance's family struggled a lot more and they did not get to experience as much as I had. I do hope that I can give my children the same great childhood that I had when the time comes. Though if you can afford to have more children, then go for it. But if it's really going to be a struggle, in my opinion, I think it'd be better to just focus on the children you do have.  

[cnhauk]

Well, for the time being, I'd love to be able to have at least one. But in the future, I'd want 2-3. DH and I have being trying for 6 months now (but it seems like a LOT longer) and would feel so blessed to finally get pregnant, and if that's the only one God gives us, we'll be happy.

[angela418]

I voted two.  At first I wanted 4, because I wanted an even number and I am from a big family - 5 sisters - so I wanted my kids to have several siblings.  My DH only wanted 3 maximum, but now that we are on number two and they are going to be so close in age (DS will be 18 months old when DD is born in June), we're thinking two is a good number for us.  I told DH he can't get a vasectomy right away, in case we change our minds and want one more.  But, I do know that I want to be done having kids by the time I am 35 and I am 31 now.  

[minilady]

Hey :-D I voted 6. I wanted 4 originally, but after struggling with TTC it just makes me want to have as many as I can. It has made me appreciate it more. It's such a blessing to have children, and I can not wait to be a mum one day :-D

[Rosa20]

Id like to have five...i dont know why but i just want a big family...i already have three from a previous relationship...but i would like to have at least two with the guy im with now... hes awsome and its something i want to be able to experience with him... :)

[snagglepuss1]

I voted 4. Have 3 children already, a dd who is 6, ds who is 4 and ds who is 3. Was 100% sure I wouldn't want anymore after having my youngest...he was my 6th pregnancy in 5 years and it had really taken it's toll on my body. He got to 14 months and I started gettting broody again, convinced dh that another baby was a great idea and we started ttc baby 4...but then gave up as I wasn't sure if it was what I wanted. He was a tough toddler my youngest and think it put me off wanting another for a good while. However the broody feeling returned BIG time when I had my 30th birthday and after a loooong discussion we are ttc baby number 4 again, which will 1000% be the last baby, vasectomy was part of the deal of this baby. I will feel happy with one more. Don't want to go on having kids forever, just feel one more will be enough to fulfill my desire. Plus dh already has 2 ds's from a previous marriage and he is 12 years older than me. 4 will be more than enough for my contribution to humanity! lol :D

[LosingMyMindInGA]

I love being pregnant and the L & D thing as well,  I dont' ever want my tubes tied, I dont' want to permanently take any options away.  

[jtaylor102481]

Well originally I didn't want to have any children but changed when I had my frist in 2002 and I thoughts maybe two so when I had myson in 2006 I knew I was done and had my tubes tied. Bu when I met my hubbyin 2007 I thought well maybe we could have one together but it would have been a harder road but for some miracle we got pregnant. Even with my tubes tied I had my third in 2009 and now weare goingon #4 duei aug but we both agreed we are done seeing as the pregnancy has been battle to prevent preterm labor and weekly injects that make me sick so I am having my tubal ligation repaired and done correctly and the dh is have his done also we were lucky to have lil mckenna in 2009 and doubly lucky to be having lil Avery. In aug that we aren't chancing fate anymore

[jenkaye21]

I voted 5.  I have four and desperately want one more.  No, I won't WANT to be done after that, LoL, but I will HAVE to be.  I am 32 but DH is 40, and he really wants to be done ASAP.  Hoping to conceive in the very near future before he says "Forget about it".  

I've always wanted a large family, and although we are FAR from wealthy, my kids want for nothing. As long as we can afford to give them the basics needs and opportunities (for sports, music lessons, etc) I am fine with that.  I don't think they need the latest iPad, iPhone, expensive camps etc... but that's another post. :)

[jschoch8]

i know what you mean, but the best gift a girl can have is a sister :)

[Clysta]

Haha, I know and maybe I'm selfish about it. I just don't want to go through pregnancy again, the newborn/infant stage.... Now that she's older I'm enjoying it more and more and I'm so excited for her to get older. Aw well. Maybe my mind will change in a few years.