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Hubby turning himself in :'(
I'm crying because he made the decision to turn himself in asap but our daughter will be here in November.. :'( He wants to meet her but he made up his mind & I can't change that, I respect his decision but I'm scared. My husbamd has an order of arrest & we spoke to an immigration lawyer & said he'd get deported to mexico & won't be able to leave for 5 yrs but if he has criminal records in mexico then he won't be able to leave for 10 yrs. I can't stop crying because if he leaves I leave with him I just can't imagine being away from him. The thing that made me more sad is that he wants me & our daughter to stay here so I can work & send him money while he finds a job in Mexico & if I want I can send him our daughter to mexico with him once she's a year old. I'm torn I don't want my daughter to be away from her dad. I don't want our little family to be split apart but it's the only way he can fix papers. :'( can't stop crying.
You honestly believe that? Don't send him money. Save all your money up here in the states. He is a man and can take care of himself. You will need the money for your baby. And secondly don't send your daughter to Mexico. It makes me upset that he wants his daughter in Mexico when she is a year old. What about you?
@Bellaamomma if she is a legal citizen and married him but she did not requested him on the immigration office to give him the papers and did all that process then it's going to be though. If an immigrant marries a citizen it doesn't mean that they are ok and safe in this country. They will have to go through a process of filling out papers, paying money to lawyers, going to Mexico for a couple of days to go to the embassy and then they can get the papers. It all can cost starting from $4,000 and up.
Why does he have a deportation order? There's something called a waiver, and he'll be able to come back in less than a yr orv6 months! But it all depends on his records...
I'm not good with the whole deported situation but aren't you a legal citizen? And you two are married with a child on the way isn't he legally not able to be deported married to a citizen ? I just am kinda confused on how that works. And **** American money getting sent over there to Mexico you guys will have a lot of money saved if you do that! That's triple what it amounts too up here so that doesn't sound like a bad idea
The reason he wants me to send him money is because he's going to open up a savings account in Mexico so we can have our second wedding in Mexico & we do plan on buying a house over there. He's going to be working over there & I'll be over here with our daughter also saving up money because lawyers are expensive. I understand he's trying to fix things asap but it just hurts me knowing we're going to be apart. He did say he's going to wait for our daughter & I to go get him but it's a tough situation.
Its a sad situation but i agree its better that he gets this done now but i wouldnt send him money if nothing else use the money ud sendhim to save up to go see him or b with him cuz how would u feel if u send him how much money then u guys not wrk out and in hind sight could have been spent improving urs and babies life at least if its i ur possesion saved then if he drops off or divorce happens u can use it to better urself.
It really depends on what u did he could of done that the day he had court now is to late ,my bother did went to court and they still kicked him out he can't try anything for 10 years even tho his merry to a U.S. citizen and he has a baby here they still said no
Why be scared of racing ur child in Mexico i guess is bc all the things u see in the news but trust me when ur out there its no the same thing
I think you can get a letter from your doctor if you get depressed and take it to your husbands attorney and maybe he can get an extension
I 100% understand. I went through the same exact situation with my first two kids father. He got into some trouble and we bailed him out before ICE (immigration agency) got to him and then he skipped out on the court dates bc he would get deported. But then he got caught driving with no license and even tho we had a lawyer all they could do was buy time. He got deported to mexico and I have the kids here with me. Its a hard situation and very sad. He wants the kids to go stay with him in mexico over the summer but that's not gonna happen. We are not together anymore tho. I'm married again so it wasn't that hard for me that he had to leave. I just felt so sad for my kids. Best advice I can give you is get a lot of calling cards and make sure your baby is there with his family alot.. That's what I do. And hopefully he will be back before you know it :) ill pray for your family
I agree that sounds pretty ****** of him to want you to stay here and send him money, he could have worked and saved and then went back. It sounds to me he is temporarily running away from responsibility.
But i understand he does need to get the legal stuff worked out sooner than later.
It Will be so much harder on the baby for him to leave when she is old enough to understand what's going on. Right now she won't know and it will hurt less
But i understand he does need to get the legal stuff worked out sooner than later.
It Will be so much harder on the baby for him to leave when she is old enough to understand what's going on. Right now she won't know and it will hurt less
Wow! That is so sad. I'm so sorry i cant imagine not having my husband near.! But id be scared to raise a baby in Mexico. You have a lot on your plate. I'm sad you have to deal with this during such a Beautiful time! Just pray!
I'm sorry i might sound rude but u can't be without him and, he can be without u and his baby,i mean it's good that he wants to turn in but why leave his lil family here
So he wants u to stay here to send him money seriously, when ever i talk to my husband about that all he will say is i want u to be waiting for me over there ,I cant believe he wants u to stay here olny for u to send him money then he cares more about money then his family?
Im sorry, but he is a big boy and its better for him to do this now than later. Hes thinking of his future and his family. And I agree with Bebax3 leave it in Gods hands, he knows what ge does, he will never give you anything you cant handle. Youre strong and now you have to be even more strong for your daughter. Tell him to be safe in mex also, to not get frustrated and look for help in the wrong crowd. God bless !
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