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I look too young
The other day I was shopping and the cashier very rudely demanded to know how old I am and how old my daughter is because I look to young to be having another child. And can I even do that? What does that even mean?
I am 21 years old, married and supporting my family completely. Not only that but we are a very happy and loving family which is why we tried for another baby. I was young during my first pregnancy and that fact defined my whole experience from pregnancy to being in the hospital. People treated us like crap. I still continue to regularly get comments about how I look too young. I know I look younger than I am but I am sick of this defining me as a mother and person. I was so excited for this second pregnancy because I thought this time I'll be able to celebrate the baby and pregnancy. I am very down knowing that I am perceived the exact same and am not good at being happy about going out knowing this.
I am 21 years old, married and supporting my family completely. Not only that but we are a very happy and loving family which is why we tried for another baby. I was young during my first pregnancy and that fact defined my whole experience from pregnancy to being in the hospital. People treated us like crap. I still continue to regularly get comments about how I look too young. I know I look younger than I am but I am sick of this defining me as a mother and person. I was so excited for this second pregnancy because I thought this time I'll be able to celebrate the baby and pregnancy. I am very down knowing that I am perceived the exact same and am not good at being happy about going out knowing this.
My grandmas next door neighbour asked her why I was having a baby so young.. my grandma replied that I was 21 to which she replied she thought I was about 15.
You don't even have to answer her. It's none of her business. I'm 24 and I'm finally learning that I don't owe anyone explanations for anything I do. The only person I'm accountable to is my husband.
I wasn't pregnant but my husband and I were married at 19 and 23 years old after dating/being engaged for 6 months. We also looked younger than we were. Even people we knew were asking intrusive question about if we were ready. I ignored them. We've been married 5 1/2 years and are happy as can be, so poop on them! Lol
I wasn't pregnant but my husband and I were married at 19 and 23 years old after dating/being engaged for 6 months. We also looked younger than we were. Even people we knew were asking intrusive question about if we were ready. I ignored them. We've been married 5 1/2 years and are happy as can be, so poop on them! Lol
The same thing happens to me! When people find out/see that I'm pregnant they look at me like "oh my God". Very very judge mental and will even say oh I'm so sorry. I am also 21 but look about 15 so it makes it hard sometimes :( especially if you are not married like me lol.
Your not alone I'm 21 and someone rudely said to me I should be worrying about school and not babies till I pointed out I was 21 and her opinions where not necessary as she did not know me
When me and my hubby go places we get looks all the time. Especially when we have out 6 year old with us. But all we do is smile say hello.
I feel you! I am 25 and I'm 4'9 currently pregnant with twins. When we go places
Lol you know what I would do, find out when that cashier is working next and pile your trolley/buggy has high as you can and make her scan it all then when she asks you to pay just laugh and say oops I must be too young to be able to support my family and walk off also complain to the store manager about here
I am 28, I am very short,5'2, and have a baby face. I have a university degree with a double major, I manage a psychological practice, I am happily married, own my own home, and am very secure in my life... I frequently get the how old are you? Are you sure your ready for this? Your so young to be having a baby.
I just ignore it. Remember the people asking these questions with judgement just sound ignorant. They can not be taken seriously. Keep your head up high, I'm sure you are and will be an excellent mother. And your age and looks have nothing to do with that.
I just ignore it. Remember the people asking these questions with judgement just sound ignorant. They can not be taken seriously. Keep your head up high, I'm sure you are and will be an excellent mother. And your age and looks have nothing to do with that.
Im 19 on baby #2 i was very young when my first was born but dont let people bother you hun as long as you love your baby unconditionally and can do everything for your babys theres no reason you should let people put you down x
I would have went to that cashiers manager and wrote a complaint and I would have told that cashier once she bathes , feeds, and houses my child then she shouldn't open her mouth or ask dumb questions on things she has no business knowning
Darling I'm 23 and having my first and I'm very happy I'm a single lesbian and the child's father is my good friend I get all sorts of comments not like I even care I have a good job and I want to be a mother so I just say screw it I'm also very tatted so people always wanna pray for my baby as if I'm the anti. Christ but again I just don't care because I'm happy and that's all that matters I am finally getting to be a mom
I have the same issue. Just imagine giving them a little slap on the face. That helps me...
I don't understand why some ppl think having a baby young is so horrible. I think if your able to keep a roof over your and food on the table have a job and you want a baby.then being a young mom is not their decision. Your doing great just ignore ppl like that.
Truthfully the older you are to have kids the more selfish you will be towards them. I have the same thing happened to me I'm 21 and pregnant with our third, had my first when I was 19. We were walking into the store and a older man came up to use and asked if we had twins and I was like no they are 13 months apart and he was like "you guys at least over the age of 18" I was like that's really none of your business. a nurse asked if I have considered my options since I'm so young and gonna have 3 under 3. Just ignore them. :)
In my opinion age has no factor in being a good mother. I know a 16 year old mother that is more loving and attentive to her child than a 33 year old woman. But letting it get to you, the only person defining you as anything is YOU. I am a young mother of two as well. Many times I have old women asking me how old I am and I either just smile and ignore them or respond asking how old they are. Sometimes you could even have fun with it and say an older age like 30 and say, "don't I look great for my age. I've always been a confident, happy women. It takes years off your appearance." You can completely control the situation. Don't let other people's judgment take away from your happiness. If your happy be happy and let the haters know it!
Ah, sorry. There are always people that are rude in life. Just ignore them as they show their own ignorance. You know who you are and what your situation is (and even if it were a BAD situation, it's no one's business or a place for a stranger to make a comment). So, just smile and you don't have to answer anyone like that's questions. Just remind her that she is a cashier where you are checking out . . . as a customer. (her manager would not be pleased with her behavior). good luck
Tell anyone that has anything to say to mind the business they are not the ones supporting u at all so they have no say
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