I need to vent.

[darthmander]

Im sorry ladies i really need to vent. I am 31wks pregnant. I am married. My husband does his best to provide for us. We live with his mom. Recently he started smoking. He leaves the house to go hang out with his friends and smoke. He is usually gone between 1-3hours at a time. Its almost an everyday thing. He says he doesn't buy it but its just as bad. His mom is telling him that he needs to get out. Where are we going to go? My mom would let me live with her probably but not him. I don't know. I beg not to smoke him and I fight everyday about it. Its coming to a point that I'm thinking about divorce. he says he is going to stop before the baby gets here but I don't believe it. I am so stressed. I don't know what to do.

[jmb4611]

Of He Accuses You Of Cheating Then 9 Times Out Of 10 It's Him That Is Cheating! I Agree Tell Him How It Is Of He Don't Like That Do What Best For Your Baby And leave

[darthmander]

I told him how I feel and guess what? He didn't rush home to talk or anything he is still at his friends playing video games. That tells me something. The roads are iced over and I can't drive like an hour away to my moms. But I see what his priorities are now.

[bethshahan]

My boyfriend used to smoke, weed and the horrid legal stuff with his friends. He'd tell me, then when he knew it bothered me he hid it from me and even lied about it. About five or six months into my pregnancy I told him how it was gonna be. If he didn't quit now, not after the babys born, not a couple weeks before the babys born but NOW then I'd have no choics but to leave. If he couldn't act like an adult, what makes me think he's gonna be able to act like a parent? Especially since my dad was the same way and never in my life, I knew if I let him stay in mine and his daughters life how it would end. Anyways, after that confrontation and threat he stopped. I'm now 9 months pregnant,  we also live with his parents but since he quit smoking he got a job in security and we get to move into our own placs next week! Maybe you need to stick it to him, stay at your moms awhile to show him its no joke, and maybe he needs to stop hanging out with his bad influences of so called friends. Hes gonna have a baby soon, things like that are no joke when you have a baby. Message me if you ever need to talk I'm always here.

[darthmander]

I'm tired of crying over this and I'm tired of stressing whether he is ok or not. I'm done. He has gotten 3 speeding tickets in like 3-4 month period. He smokes. And he stays gone for hours. He says I do that when I go see my mom. That's different I'm with my mom. Im not smoking and I'm not cheating. He evem comes to point where he accuses me of cheating on him. I have no sex drive why would I cheat on you?

[jmb4611]

do

[jmb4611]

Don't It Honey And Actually Show Up With Papers Otherwise He Will Not Take Anything You Say Seriously And He Will continue

[darthmander]

I told him how I feel and gave him one week. I said at this point I have the money for divorce and I will use it.

[Liz_zoey]

That was one of the reasons I left my ex. He refused to stop smoking and would smoke around me like it was no big deal, even though I was pregnant and very much anti-green, as he called it. It *****, but I would give him an ultimatum. Its the weed or you and the baby. My ex chose the weed, and I can only hope your husband chooses differently. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but keep your head up! It'll all work out one way or another.

[jmb4611]

Yeah... I Would Just Leave Him! Of He Blames You That's Uncalled FoR.... My Dad Did The Same Thing To My Mom And Swore He Would Stop She Told Him Of You Don't Stop By The Time She Is Two We Are Getting A Divorce And He Didn't Stop AndShe Filled For Divorce When I Was Two! Put A Time Limit On It Say Of You Don't Stop In Two Weeks Or Whatever Time You Think Is Appropriate Then Say We Will Have To Split Up Cause My Baby Can't Be Put Through This Of He Don't Get The Divorce Papers And Of He Still Don't Change When He Sees Those Then He Never Will

[darthmander]

At one point I told him how stressed I was and he said you can get high it won't affect the baby. Like wtf?

[darthmander]

He turns the blame on to me. He starts saying things like I'm stressed and this and that. I'm tired of it. I just want to cry and rip my hair out. I beg him not to go out and smoke but he says he will be back and just disappears for hours. What is he going to do if I went into labor? He going to show up at the hospital high? I don't think so. When I get stressed I bite my lip and at this point it looks like it got attacked by a dog. I am not a happy person at this point. Everyday him and his mom fight or me and him fight about this exact same sh*t. I'm loosing it.

[jmb4611]

If He Don't Stop Now Then He Has No Intention Of Doing So Or He Would HaveDone It When You First Ask Him Not To. Id Say Talk To Him About Your Concern And Let Him Know You Are Considering Divorce And See Where It Goes From There! Of He Doesn't Respect You And Your Baby Enough Not To Do It Now Then He Won't Later And You Don't Need That And Your Baby Don't Need To Be Around That And All The Fighting It Causes... ***** To Say But It's Not All About Him Or You Anymore It's About Your Baby, Think About What Is Best For Him Or Her. Hope It Helps A little

[kennimae]

Why not just quit now when its just a few weeks away. That's just dumb in my opinion. Did you express your thoughts about divorce on it?