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Does anyone else have problems with their mother in laws ? I can't stand mine !!!! How do you guys deal with them ? Please give me advice . .
I hated my ex mother in law. we never got along. She's the paraniod type and was in her late 50s. she even cried over something stupid first time i meet her. I was like ok.... me and my ex always had problems and they never helped on that part. now I'm married again and his mom passed away when he was young so i never met her. I don't have any troubles with any of his family. I'm truly blessed and i hope everyone elses will get better
Were no married and I dont thinkwe ever will be especially since i know for a fact now that hes still with his ex of 12years. Im 20weeks and already his parents dont like me because im having his baby and he isnt committed to this other woman and they dont let his other daughter that he has with a different person come to their hs but his ex of 12years he has two kids with and they are always over there everyday almost and im positive they will disown my child too. That came from his mouth! Idk what to do, i want to leave it alone cause its their own personal issues about their son and they build hatred towards anyone thats not her and she hates me cause im pregnant and got him to turn his back on the other one and his daughter. Im super sonfused and I HATE HIS PARENTS & HIS "EX"!!
Awe, I envy you. Thats wonderful though.. more of us wish we had that. Mine really isn't all that bad. She has taken care of me for nearly 2 years. I am pregnant with her first grand baby and it just so happens to be a girl.. a girl is what she has always wanted but ended up with 3 boys. There are times when she will pressure my husband into giving her like $50 when he only works part time and we have a baby to buy for.. that kind of irritates me.. but I let it go and forget about it. Her wanting my baby all the time causes me to have anxiety about having her. I just want to stay pregnant with her so that she is always with me haha, I think I already have attachment problems. I just cant handle her and my husband taling about how she will have my baby a lot.. I wont let that happen!! I don't mind once in awhile, but it's my job to be the mother, and do everything for her, not hers. Wow I probably sound like a meanie.. sorry. :/
I actually really love my mother in law! And she loves me too so I feel very lucky. She was so happy when me and my man got together (he's got a big heart and has been walked all over and used in the past). She tells him never to let me go! Although they aren't as close as I'd like to see.. She lives 45 minutes away. So we can go months without seeing her and weeks without talking to her. Mind you, she has 3 other kids (two of which are pregnant as well) and 3 more step children. She spoils us rotten. There has been times where we haven't had the best week and she sends us money. Or has picked me up and taken me shopping for just whatever and then spends $300 on groceries. I feel guilty because we're not as poor as she thinks we are. But we'd have a lot more $ if I had a job... Which I don't. And i feel so guilty because I tried so hard up until I was pregnant and than just gave up and went to school. She's also literally bought all the big stuff for our baby girl too, which I feel blessed because I really had no idea how we'd save up the money for certain things. She's also sold our car (my boyfriend was given a perfectly good car but we haven't had the time or money to get his liesens renewed and we walk everywhere) that sits in her yard and is giving us all the money for the baby. Then she's buying us a brand new 2010 car when he does get his liesens. Like I said, I'm extremely lucky and I don't take any of it for granted. I love her to pieces and I know she tries her best to be in our lives and is extremely busy. I think she compensates with buying us stuff. I don't know! Sometimes I just feel bad lol.
My mother in law is okay to me I suppose, the only thing that really gets me is that she thinks that when my baby is born she is going to have her all the time. I plan on breastfeeding so I don't think so!!
I HATED my mother in law at first. We got into so many fights and one time she got in my face and I almost hit her but she told me if I did she would have me arrested and press charges to the fullest extent. My finacee' told her if she couldn't chill out and get along she wasn't going to be around us. Now she is as sweet as can be and she's even better now that I'm pregnant with her grand child. Talk to your partner and have him say something to her, I know it's hard to stand up to your mom but she can't just treat you anyway she wants to.
Al of you shouldn't take them for granted. I know how much they can get on your nerves. Me and mine were always at it. She passed a year ago from battling cancer. Not being around for our wedding and now we're having a baby that will never be spoiled by grandma. As much as we hated each other at times, well most of the time,it destroys me everyday seeing how depressed and upset my husband is bc of this. And he was a mamas boy. So please I ask all of you, even tho you may hate ur mil or she gets on your nerves, just remember some of us don't have that opportunity to have theirs around.
Mother in laws are a pain in the butt because they are always in competition with us . I see it as they never want to let go of their sons. My man is planning to buy a house in 2013 and he wants his parents to live downstairs from us but I'm not willing to deal with them forever. He says his mom will leave us alone since it won't be her house but I doubt it. She gets into all our business & btw she cleans his room , washes his clothes , hangs it up , makes him his food when I'm not around , & is even trying to have a say in whats going to happen when my daughter is here .. I use to live with them but I couldn't take it because of her so I moved out. Now I just say hi and bye to her when I spend a few days over here but other than that I ignore her because if not id curse her out .
I think the best way to deal with a in law is moving far far away lol
I think the best way to deal with a in law is moving far far away lol
Maybe he will get it when the baby comes. My husband spends a lot of time at him mom's and I don't really care for her so I just don't go. I go to her house on holidays but even that feels awkward for me. We do a lot for her and I don't think she appreciates it. She will tell my husband to tell me thank you but she has my phone number... I know she can text. Anyways I just avoid her. I'm pretty sure she has no idea how I feel about her.
My mother in law also spoils my man to the tee buys him what he wants when he wants it and all he has to do is bug her if she says no and she gives in with in an hour.. we have our own place but we spend more time at her house then our own. It's rather annoying and I hate it.. he doesn't get that I'm not comfortable here.. everytime I bring it up by saying babe we r starting a family we need to bond with our son. He fights with me and says I am not going to take him from his family which I'm clearly not trying to do bc I don't have a family but him n my unborn son.. so I wouldn't take him fromsome thinv I never had.. I just want him to realize that we r starting our own branch of family in addition to his..
I tryed that for the longest time but I was called rude and disrespectful bc I did... ):
Your mother in law sounds like she has separation anxiety. Maybe she truly does have good intentions and she feels like this is your first baby so she just wants to give you good advice.Hey the more help the better!
my mil is extremely nice. But annoying also and trys to compete with me when it comes to my bf but doesn't think I notice she spoils him dramatically I mean to the core at 22 years old. He has a good job pays no bills and is so rude to her she walks away n then asks for him not to be upset with her. It drives me insane then I want to make dinner she insist I sit down she could do everything. I feel like saying want to wipe our butts while ur at it. She nevr lets me clean make my bf food :( unless she not here BUT she offered to pay our rent if we got our own place so my bf can save $ he said no he's want us all together cause he doesn't want to leave her. Uhhh and already telling me to make sure I circumsice by son DOESNT LET ME FORGET. And how I need to wipe him n I should put clothe diapers. Every day same convo. I have no clue what to do either HELP LOL.
Omg I thought I was the only one with in law problems. My mother in law told me its my fault I got pregnant & said id be just a woman to sleep with if I didn't make my man his food ( mind you I don't live with him because of financial reasons and he lives with her but when I'm with him I cook ) she's just a ***** and I can't stand her. She expects my man to support her and rent an apartment with her when he finishes college ( mind you she's married but doesn't wana move with her husband )but when I have talked about me and him getting a place she's cried and thrown crazy fits saying he can't do that & she won't allow it .. ugh these in laws are nuts !
That would make me so mad. I wouldve went off on them and they would really have a reason to hate me! I hope for my mother in laws sake she never treats me like that!
I just stay away from all my in laws... I know thats whats best to keep the peace and for me to stay stress free while im pregnant. And when I do have to be around them I make no effort to talk to them unless someone ask me something and I keep it short and simple. *shrug
Yea she even said one day when I was at her house that she won't believe it's his until she sees proof.. she can't just except that fact that we r happy n he loves me.. n I showed the family the 3d ultra sound pics when I was 34 weeks roughly and now I'm 36+2 weeks and his father goes that's not my sons that baby has deformities and our family genes don't.. well sorry to tell u sweetie half my DNA is in this child as well and not every baby is going to look the same and he is smoshed in here.. it's all bc I had 3 pics and in one bc of the fluid around his face it looks like a cleft lip but that's a side veiw and then in the front shot u don't see that.. and his fingers r wrinkely.. hello he is in a sac of water for 8 months u dumb ****...
I would tell her sice shes so h e l l bent on telling everyone that when the baby is born SHE can dish out the $400 for a DNA test! See how she likes that one!! I couldnt deal with that.
I can't stand mine.. she is a two faced no good price of trash.. and she is telling the whole family that my baby I'm 36+2 WITH isn't my husbands
YUP I deal with this problem too. Last week when we went to my bfs moms, she thought I was sleeping and I heard her say to my bf that it was impossible for me to only be 13 weeks along and see the baby kick on the ultrasound because "its not even that developed yet." Implying that this baby isn't his. Even has been trying to coerce him to get a dna test later on. **** her.... I wish I could give you advice.. but if you figure it out let me know lmao. Good luck to you..
Mine has just recently started geting on my nerves. Im almost 7 weeks along with our 5th baby and she treats me like its my first. "Dont do this dont do that." Im pregnant not handicapped (no offense to anyone out there!) They moved in with us a little over a year ago and it was ok until about 3 weeks ago when my hormones and the mood swings kicked in. Now everything she does annoys the H E L L out of me. If I do something with my kids she walks away and mumbles. I hate that! Say it to my face if your big enough to say it behind my back so we can talk it out! I try to remember she has the best intentions but my hubby knows shes starting to get to me. The left with some friends on a trip to Colorado Springs for Christmas and they wont be back until the 30th so Im so happy I have the house to myself and I can spend the holiday with just my kiddos and my hubby. They are the one woman we will always have to compete with...Shes there and shes not going anywhere so we have to learn (basically) how to deal with them. I wish you the best of luck with yours!!
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