vent!!!

[mommyof1claire]

Im so upset that my fiances family is telling me i need to gain weight im 30weeks and still look little but my baby is healthy!!
Before i was pregnant i weighed 125 and now i weigh 151 is it bad that im small??
It bugs me so much:/

[AnnieBrooke]

If your MIL is fat herself, it might be part of the issue.  Or, as you say, she just isn't accepting yet of the idea of being a grandma.  You're going to have to learn to let her comments roll off your back sooner or later, because if she is the "commenting" type, she is not going to stop when the baby is born.  So get down some breathing techniques and try to let it go.  But when she is with you at the doc's, do ask him specifically about your weight, and tell the doc that she in particular is worried, and let the doc talk to her directly.  It might help for her to hear the words from him and not you.

[lovelyglover]

Isn't total weight gain supposed to be like 25-30? I think yer weight is fine...at lease yu aren't gaining too much I feel like in going to be huge by the end I'm 17 weeks and have gained almost 20 lbs

[mommyof1claire]

Okay thanks,and she does go with me sometimes and the doc. Tells me im fine on my weight and that the baby is healthy but she said im still too small and that when she was pregnant she was bigger an i told her not all pregnancy's are the same an i think shes still not ready to except that she is gonna be a grandma.:/

[AnnieBrooke]

No, those weights are fine.  That is about where I was at the same time (though I think I was about 130 before getting pregnant), and by 40 weeks I had hit 163, and that was all considered fine by my doctor.  A lot of what you gain is water weight anyway, and bloating can be pretty annoying in late pregnancy.  Just don't ostentatiously diet or refuse food around your in-laws, or they will genuinely worry that you are harming yourself.

If your mother-in-law is the one who is saying this, ask her around to your next doctor appointment with you, and ask the doctor how he thinks your weight is doing.  He'll certainly tell you it is fine, and then she can just shut up.