extremly depressed, pregnant, and feeling distance from baby.

[shawnastone]

I was just going to make two different posts. But then i decided that i really dont want to do that. :)

First Post:

I have struggled with 8 years worth of depression and self harming, along with 5 years of eating disorder. I have been better for over a year.
I wasnt planning on getting pregnant as i wanted to take care of myself before i brought a baby into the world, but it happened. And now im 24wks. I was really happy at the beginning, and i still am. but im also getting stressed and depressed about all this extra wight and with money financial problems. I dont want to do anything threw out the day because i just feel so low about myself, and im only in the end of 2nd trimester. My boyfriend been stressing a lot as well which hasnt been helping me. All i can think about is selfharming, but i know i wont because my doctor reminds me over and over how bad it can be for me and baby. So i refuse to bring myself that low. I guess i need encouraging words or something. (please rude comments keeps to yourself)

Second post:

I feel like my boyfriend can connect better with my unborn baby. I know this may sound weird considering the baby is inside me. but i feel like he has a better way of bounding. I feel like when i talk to my belly, the baby cant hear me because my face isnt right up to my belly like my boyfriends is, and he kiss my belly all the time. I feel like my baby will know my boyfriend better then me cause he can bound better with our baby. I know sounds weird. and maybe it's all just stress that is making me think so silly. but im worried.

[shawnastone]

Thank you everyone for the great advice and encouraging words .

[Mommy24721]

I'm in the same boat i feel like my world is crashing in if u ever feel that low tell someone close to u who isn't in a bad mood because they help more...as far as the weight thing don't ask how much u way tell them u don't want to know unless its unhealthy eat and go for walks or swim drink lots of fluids and make sure to stay in an upbeat mood because it helps the baby i was very concerned about my body but i decided i don't wanna know unless I'm unhealthy because i used to starve myself till i met this guy who cares so much about me i finally stopped then we found put we r having a baby and i may be depressed a lot but i handle it in my own way I stopped cutting a year ago but i have problems still but id never go back to it i did it for six years and it made things much worse just remember to stay strong and the baby will bond with u more than anyone because it lives in u

[teenmomma2]

I'm 19 about to have my second baby so believe me when it come to stress I know how hard it is always worrying if everything is going to turn out OK in the end my best advice to you is find things to occupie yourself that you enjoy doing and try to stay active. Also when it comes to not feeling close to your baby think about this, your baby hears your voice first and listens to your heart beat 24/7 so when the baby comes out your voice and heart beat will comfort the baby more than anything else and also try breast feeding bc that will help with yalls bonding experience I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck momma

[storyofjesi]

I experienced severe depression during my second trimester. The worst thing you can do is bottle it up and seclude yourself from others. It helps to have a support group such as friends, family, and your partner or even finding a community support group of similar moms. You are definitely not alone! Depression is something a lot of women experience but they choose not to talk about it. You're concern alone is a great sign that you'll be a wonderful mother to your child. It's okay to cry, it's okay to have these feelings. It's what you do to deal with then that matters most. Don't stop talking, keep asking for help, reach out to those closest to you to be surrounded with an abundance of love! Keep your head up. Keep talking to your baby and just remember, soon enough you will have the best gift of your life.

[sml143]

Your baby will know your voice better then anyone else's bc it's with you all the time and hears you talking even if you can't put your mouth up to your belly like your boyfriend :) and as for bonding some women don't feel connected to their babies until they're actually here and in your arms, so I wouldn't worry about that hun! And when you're feeling depressed make you sure you talk to someone about it, I wouldn't want you hurting yourself or baby..and we're always here if you need someone to talk to!