Just need to cry a little...

[tiff219]

So I just don't have anyone really to talk to about this and its killing me! My cousin/best friend just found out she was pregnant on her 2nd month of trying! Well... the first month she went off BC and the second  month she tried and now she is pregnant! I am SO SO SO SO excited for her! She really wanted a baby! But she is barely 20 years old and has only been married a year! Its just so hard that one person can get pregnant within a blink of an eye and then others of us try and try and try and get told it will take a miracle to get pregnant ever. Ahh... thanks for letting me vent! I am very happy for her! Just being a brat and am sad for myself! :( Maybe this month will be my miracle! I am on clomid now! But the doctors don't really think it will help much...

[tiff219]

Thanks everyone!!! You guys are all great and appreciate your insight! I can talk to my husband but you know... Guys don't understand. As much as he tries he just does not get how hard it is on us woman not to be able to get pregnant!

Texaschica, thanks for all you said! It is very very hard for me to talk about my feelings. I don't want my cousin to not feel like she can talk to me so I don't want to act sad or jealous around her. Which I have not but... I guess when she complains about the pregnancy symptoms I can just tell her to be thankful for being pregnant!

Good luck to all of you ladies to! Thanks for responding and all the advice!

[Lucey12]

Aww Tff that *****. I know ow you feel...kinda. I want to get pregnant when the time is right. I had to go off BC for 5 months due to getting sick and the doctors thinking it was the cause. I had completely unprotected sex about 5 times a week and never got pregnant. Im worried I cant. Then there is a friend who missed ONE PILL and is now pregnant. Follow all teh methods and hopefully you will get pregnant. The number one thing is LOT OF SEX. More than once a day Id say. Hopefully you will get pregnant soon with a healthy little one. And when the time is right for me, I too will get pregnant the first time (a couple years can pass after the first one, I dont want too many kids but dont want to be on birth control either.)
All the best, much love.

[ladybug82]

DEF not alone ... BEEN in my husbands family for about 10 years and husbands bro just gor married after seeing gf of 2 mths  and bam she got preggers .... :( and after her first was born she got pregg again with her second  double :( .. good luck and i am sending you bug hugs *:O0 erika

[texaschica]

You are NOT alone in how you are feeling!  My DH and I tried to conceive for two and a half years before we had a pregnancy that lasted beyond 6 weeks.  We were among the first of our friends to start trying, and two years later almost everyone else who wasn't even trying when we were had babies crawling around.  Just to add to that pain, I started a little prayer group of three women who were all trying to get pregnant and lo and behold, they did... the day after I found out they were both pregnant (and due a week apart) and I had a nervous breakdown just about I found out I was pregnant too... except I miscarried at 6 weeks and they had beautiful baby girls last October (right after my husband's best friend and 3 other couples).  Don't get me wrong - there was never a moment where I wasn't completely happy for them.  But at the same time you have to be honest about how you feel too - and as happy as I was for them, I was bitter and angry for myself.  

I went to a women's group one night and the speaker said that one of the hardest things that we do as people is to be honest with our own emotional assessments of events in life that have a pre-scripted emotional expectation.  That doesn't mean that we shouldn't put on a happy face for our friends when they have joy, but it's really okay to be sad inside.  

Be sure that you are talking about your feelings with someone - I spoke with my husband and even though he really didn't understand me, it was really valuable (and hard) to just say things out loud.

Good luck with the clomid - I know many people for whom it has worked, and if nothing else it does feel good to take some control of the situation.  I ended up conceiving the month after I quit taking clomid (I think it was a total fluke), but it helped to know I was being proactive when I took it.

Sorry this was so long!

[gokuangel]

SS! I know how it is my SIL said at 19 she wanted another and boom 1 month later it was done! here iam  28 no kids!!
GL and dont give up!!

[niki_beth]

(((HUGS))) Oh I'm so sorry!! I completely understand your mixed emotions! I never had to deal with fertility issues, but there was a time period where I went through 3 losses in a row... it seemed that at that time everyone around me was getting pregnant (and HAVING their babies!) It was so hard to go to all the baby showers and to visit their new little ones and look at u/s pics... etc... less listen to my friends complain of all their pg symptoms!! You want SO badly to be happy for your friends, but you just can't help but harbor some jealousy. I can remember all but jumping up and down and screaming that it just wasn't fair!!
Anyway... vent away hunny!! We understand!!! I will be praying for your miracle to come!

[maria5056]

am so sorry! i was trying to get pregnant for 4 years before i did get pregnant. i didnt do anything to help me concive. sometimes u just have to wait and have faith. i wish u the best. how long u been trying for??