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My fiance' is in prison and will be for a long time we are really wanting to have a child together. The prison will not release sperm.. he says he can bring it out to me in a visit in a condom. what is the process then that i need to do?? thank
I understand completely what you are going through. The father of my four year old is in prison and has been for over two years now. When he first went in, we were trying for another baby but it did not happen. We were also trying to find a way to get the sperm to me. We came to the conclusion that it is impossible, unless you can somehow get in a sterile cup or test tube for him to put it in and then have the sperm put inside you all within 60 minutes of him ejaculating. Good luck! I fortunately opened my eyes and fell in love with a good man who loves my children. I am now expecting my 3 rd child and am getting married in June.
Personally, I would think abt this for a couple years & then revisit the situation. My husband (at the time) was in prison in ohio & we had a son together. My son at 4 yrs old was telling everyone he would meet, I have a daddy but he's in prison. It was awful. I then severed ties with this man, & net the man of my dreams: we've been married for 25 yrs now:)
my main concern would be if it is his sperm he is bringing you. i would want to be there when he did it just to make sure. and not saying he would futz with it but that someone else might want to mess with him for some reason and use that to against him in the future. so if i were in your situation i would research this online more, without using forums where people may judge you. and then talk to the administration at the prison about wanting to conceive and how you could go about it safely and securely.
best of luck!
best of luck!
Some people go to prison for things they didn't do. So maybe we should stop.and think before judging.
Ppl should not judge her for wanting a child with her husband just because he is in prison.thats something she will have to deal with...i wish u luck
Not here to judge your situation...
To answer your question... Look up DIY insemination. You can order kits for this. The key will be the container he puts it in and how quickly you get it from him. It has to stay warm.
To answer your question... Look up DIY insemination. You can order kits for this. The key will be the container he puts it in and how quickly you get it from him. It has to stay warm.
I'm not sure what he did to get a life sentence, but that's serious, and having a child with this man is not fair to you, or a child of his to grow up without a father, or to have to visit his father in jail and think that's okay. Even with that being said, I agree that the sperm is very likely to be not viable any way you do it. Good luck!
I wonder if there are any regulations that would allow you two meet up to conceive a child. That would be something I would look into, but I wouldn't know where to begin. Maybe the warden of the prison could be of some help. I'm not knowledgeable on this subject, but if you both want a baby I don't see why the prison wouldn't allow him to make a child. Good luck!!!
Why would you want a child with this man who has done something so bad that he's gotton life? How would you explain to your child that daddys in prison, and isn't coming out? And you have to think about the kids future. Is the fact that his father is in prison mean that he's going to see that as its only natural for him/her to get into trouble with the law?
he is serving a life sentence so by the time he his released i wouldve been through menopause
To ans your actual question...i dont think the sperm would be viable that way...there are chemicals in condoms...plus the time frame. sorry :/
I agree with the above poster but how long will he be in prison? If you two got married while he's in prison some prisons allow you to have a conjugal visit.
why would you want to have a baby while he is in there? if you do have a child, he/she will be fatherless until he is out, you will struggle, he will miss the birth, the first steps, those are things no daddy wants to miss, and I'm sorry to say this but, a lot can happen during those years, you could meet someone else...just think this thru please
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