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[lovelyglover]

So its all starting to set in now...my husband is deploying in 3 weeks and its all starting to hit me...he's going to miss soooo much): our first wedding anniversary is in January and he won't be here for that and our son is due February 1 and he won't be here for that either): I just don't know how I'm going to do it. I just wanna cry...it took us a long time to get pregnant after a miscarriage in 2010 and now that its finally happening I won't have him here to share the experience with...he won't be back until the end of March and it just ***** knowing that I wont have my other half to fall back on):

[Cyn_henderson]

My husbands a marine...just the thought of him deploying scares me...but you could always make like a video for your hubby. After he leaves each week you could make a video of how you're feeling. The changes that are going through your body. Or you could take pictures of your belly. Just update him on the growth of your baby. An when you go through labor try having someone there with you. See if they'll record the birth of your child. That way he won't completely miss out.

[Nichole05]

Yeah I know it wont be the same but im sure being near family will help just a tad, i went home for his 1st deployment wasnt preggo and it was still hard but u get used to it. If hes not able to come home at least he will be there while the baby is still young so he will be there for the biggest changes, newborns just eat slp and poop so when daddy comes back he may get a sincere smile or something. Just try ur best to weigh in on the positives that will come out of this. He will be even more financialy able/stable to support you and the baby, deployments also create a whole new love for each other. there are so many other wives who have done this before so you are never alone as i said before its just comes with this lifestyle. It sometimes seems that there are more downs then ups sometimes but we have to be strong and endure

[lovelyglover]

I never heard that but it seems as if they do come at the worst time! I am actually going back to my parents house when he leaves and I know that will help a bit but.its still not the same as having my husband there I'm gonna miss him...and he asked his gunny Sgt about that and they basically said more than likely he won't get to cone back because its at the end of his deployment...I just feel like I can't even look forward to having my boy when I.feel that time is just going to be sooo stressful...we've been staying off base but were gonna do base housing for a lil while when he.comes back and I'm gonna have to drive 5 hours with a newborn to pick up the keys...it just seems like too much for a new mom to deal with Idk maybe I'm just putting too much thought.into it


Thank yu for that too I know only military wives can relate...and army or marines we all deal with the same stuff

[Nichole05]

I know its horrible I hate deployments and my husband and I have been trying for a while also and all of a sudden it happens now, I have always heard that babies come at the worst possible time, maybe he can do the skype thing to watch the birth, ive heard of that being done b4. Has he ever talked to his leadership to see if there is anychance they can try to get him home for the delivery? Also if you stay on a base im sure there are plenty support groups there to try and help you get through this. Im here if you ever need to vent again in the future to someone that can actually relate, even tho we are affiliated with 2 diff branches (Army) we are still all one in this life together

[lovelyglover]

Thanks..its just so hard being pregnant and emotional and we've been excited since we found out and he's basically going to miss my whole pregnancy ill be just past 20 wks when he leaves. I know ill be able to do it but him being deployed while the baby is born was never supposed to happen): he hasn't even left yet and I feel like.I miss.him already

I sincerely hope yer husband doesn't have to deploy until after no women should have to go thru this

[Nichole05]

Hi Hun, I totally feel your pain since im a military wife as well and frankly this is the everyday issues we have to deal with all the time. Though nothing about a deployment is easy especially when he will miss so many memorable events just try n focus on your new little one. I just found out im pregnant and due in April and our anniversary is also in April and he is suppose to deploy in April or maybe march but he is saying that he will be able to stay for the birth and deploy later (praying on this one) but if not theres nothing left to do but pray and ask God for the strength to get through it. Only other military wives understand what we go through and it takes a strong woman to endure and i am sure you will be fine!