Losing my mind...

[melissa_182]

It's 5:07am & I woke up to the bathroom & my husband still hasn't gone to sleep he's been texting idk who. Before he would go to sleep at the same time as I do & lately he's been up around 4 am texting & when I notice it he turns around so I won't see or locks his phone & waits until I fall asleep. I'm seriously losing my mind I can't sleep with that doubt in my mind... I can't even check his phone because he told me a few days ago that he changed his password & to try & guess it giving me only 2 numbers. I don't understand him things were getting better between us or atleast that's what I thought but I guess not.. I'm so mad cuz we argued earlier around 1am & he raised his fist at me & so I went to sleep mad & a few mins ago he woke me up by trying to have sex with me after what he did I don't want him touching me. I don't know how to clear this doubt that's seriously killing me inside because I can't find any answers, explanations as to why he stays up so late. I know he has a stupid addiction for this BIG FISH CASINO game on his phone I play it too but I'm not addicted to it & he stays chatting with girls which is another thing I get angry about but to him it's "just a game". These girls have profile pics of their bodies half naked & stuff like teasing pics of porn or something & he says I'm being immature by getting mad that he's talking to these girls? He is the one who always starts the conversation always. I seriously am losing my mind over all this & I don't know how to handle it I've confronted him many times about these kinds of things but denies the cheating. Idk anymore....

[smileymonn89]

If he is up at 4am and then hides his phone from you or locks it he is obviously doing something wrong ..

The fact that he has a lock on his phone is clear indication or he wouldnt have an issues with you seeing his stuff.

A marriage is supposed to be between two people hunsband and wife. You are in jo way immature for not wanting him to talk to other women specially of that origin.

He is immature and disrespectful for treating you that way. If he raised his fist id suggest you leave on top of everything else he is doing. And he would know your past being abused so for him to do that to you is rubbish then to expect sex why ... Cause he was being dirty with other ladies then decides to go to his wife for a release.

If you stay just expect it to get worse.
After the way he treated you with the dinner that night and i believe you once posted in regards to him sexting other women.

Why would you even bother staying that is not LOVE.

My husband and I are 100% open and have no issues showing each other everything.

We trust one another and respect each other

Im sorry your in this sutuation i hope things get better soon  

[nikki052513]

He no good girl, you know he cheating keep it moving. You should leave any way, no man should ever rise his hand to hit you.

[Wolfeenix]

No one else cares that he's threatening violence? That's not the kind of person I'd want around my children at all.

[LadyInferno]

To be honest..your thinking TOO MUCH About the situation.You already know what hes doing so why ask girl? Its not like hes just a boyfriend...naaa hes your HUSBAND.Once you guys put those rings on that meant that you guys share everything together.there shouldnt be any sneaky **** going on at all.and also just cause yu were abused before doesnt mean you gotta be scared or cautious in your marriage.Hes giving u all the red flags.so why not do anything bout it??? Your being another life into this world and do u want them around that? Do you want them to see whats going on? Umm NO.My past was a horrrible horrible past but i never once look back on my past and get scared of the presents.cause i lived and learned from that.Babygirl its time to put your foot down and start thinking bout whats important for u and your child:) if i was married and my husband raise a hand to me.I simply call my dad or someone and he'd beat the **** out of him cause thats straight disreapectful(knowing yur a woman /knowing your pregnant) his phone shouldnt even be locked.smh id leave him but its yur life and choice.

[Jen9588]

Damn ur un a pretty bad situation no way on eartg is he not doing anything bad. My babysfather and i live together and my phone is his phone only time he leaves me is when he goes to work and i can contact him thru his work number other than that we're together all the time and we dont hide anything. You need to put ur foot down he cant be treating you like trash wtf

[ericatoday]

Okay I didn't read the whole thing since I'm doing baby shower prep haha. But from the first half I will tell you that no way wouldy bf ever get away with txting anyone that late and me not being able to see his phone. I've always been able to go through his phone, email and fb anytime I wish. I've never had an issue with him handing over his phone. But that's because he knows he won't have a phone if I can't look at it because we have nothing to hide from each other and if he ever hides his phone I'll smash it.

[smallpotatoes12]

^Lol pretend sleeping,
But its true he wants to be sneaky, you be sneaky and sneak up on his *** lol

[Laflam09]

Girl squint ur eyes n play like ur are sleeping.... I works lol.. But there is deff something going on .. But I been in that same spot n left.. But u deserve better leave his ***

[BSny20]

He is definitely up to something. He is a married man. He should not be hiding things on his phone nor should he be talking to other women. That is not commitment. In marriage the saying goes what is mine is yours and vice versa. My husband and I no longer even have passwords on our phones and when we did we both knew them. My husband before we were married and not even a year into our relationship did the same thing. Except he didn't change his code. But he hid his phone from me. It used to be on the night stand at night, and he would keep it in his coat or his jeans or somewhere else in the house. I searched through it when I could find it and he was asleep. But couldn't find anything. It was going on For a little over a month he was this way. We were also fighting and having problem. He even told me "he wasn't ready to marry me" I was broken hearted and didn't understand why he would say that. We were just arguing over stupid things. I was also throwing accusations at him about him cheating and hiding things. Sure enough I found out he downloaded an app on his phone that was like a texting app and what happened was his ex wrote him a note with her number and said she wanted to talk and put it on his truck window. He was texting her. After I found out I read everything that was said between the both of them  because he couldn't delete it because the app wouldn't let him. He  said it was all a joke when I confronted him the first time. Then later admitted he wasn't thinking that he would lose me and how it was a mistake. We were having problems and was texting her. She showed up at our house while I was at work and I do not know what happened she wasn't there long. And In the text she was in her car. The texting was enough so I left. I went back to him a month and some change later. I loved him enough to stick beside him. I loved him enough to forgive him. And he loved me enough to admit his mistakes and change. I was always that one who said "I would never take a man back who cheated on me" but honestly until you are in that situation you will feel that way. Some are able to stay away. Others not. You just don't know until it happens to you. You need to tell him you know he is hiding things and that you have a right to know. ALWAYS follow your gut instinct. You have that feeling where you just know!! Trust it hun! If he keeps it up tell him you guys need some time to work things out.

[tishaxx]

His hiding something I would sneak up on him when his sitting down and peak and thensay wwhat you doing or just try and say can I use your phone of no credit do it like say he ent gonna know and then look threw his phone

[swlucille]

Hes being hella sneaky u needa tell him whats up like u pick them hoes or u pick me there isnt having both, you gotta tell him all his sneakyness needs to go if he cant be a man and be there for only you and your child then hes gotta go honestly if it was my man id take his phone and hide it for hella long and just tell him he must have misplaced it . Dont ever let a man put his fist up to you . U gotta go crazy on a man just to tell him how u feel my man was acting like that cheating and everything i went crazy on his *** and hes hella loyal now lol he doesnt even lock his phone

[melissa_182]

He once told me I was prohibited from touching his phone & if I touch itbI'd "regret it".I get mad cuz he knows my passcode & he grans my phone uses it, goes through it whenever he wants but I can't do the same. The only time I get to hold his phone is when he wants me to take him a picture & he takes it away right away or locks it & says "I'll show you later"...but he NEVER does.

[paris0811]

Melissa_182 I sent you a message

[joannagonzalez]

Girl he's doing something with that phone . and he doesn't let you see it nor know his password his hidding something. You need to seriously talk to him..

[ohalie]

I agree with the post, "Either us or them." Simple and effective. He may not cheat physically, but he's disrespecting you and being unfaithful mentally.

He needs to grow up and get a reality check on what's real and important: your marriage, relationship, and baby.

[c_woody91]

In my opinion if he has nothing to hide then he wouldn't have a lock on his phone. Me and my fiance had a problem awhile back and he knows now once he has a lock on his phone(without me knowing the code) I will be putting his stuff in a pile and send him on his way.

[melissa_182]

I got tired of telling him what he's hiding & why he turns around so I won't see but thats why he locks himself in the restroom for exactly 30mins...

[HilDog]

Always follow yur first mind.. bc when you suspect anything 10/10 its real or true... That texting at 4 am and **** something needs to be said.... I would say something every singel time i see him fake turn around or lock his phone.. "Like what was you doing that yu had to be in a hurry to turn around when yu felt i was turning around" or lock your phone... In the end hes disrespecting you as his wife cause it should nt be no way in hell hes bringn this bs to the house yall lay yalls head down. Im speaking from a lil expercen My boyfriend / about to be childs father i dnt play that **** with.. I TELL HIM LEAVE THEM ******* WHERE THAT AT BC WHEN I LEAVE YU AINT GONNA FIND A GOOD WOMEN LIKE ME THAT COOKS DNT TALK TO GUYS ECT.. YOU GOTTA GIVE RESPECT TO RETURN IT... Dont noone want a man thats not going to be giving away a girls beef cake... Cause baby like me think mines done fckd something this kitty cats is on strike till furture notice...

[melissa_182]

It all seems so suspisious he all of a sudden changed his password & stuff.. He fell asleep cuz I didn't talk to him.. but I can't look at him the same way after this incident. My dad used to beat me til I was 17 & I was also in an abusive relationship when I was 16 & I'm scared because I don't want any of that to repeat...

[Cindyyee]

My husband was the same, i told him "either us, or them? you choose" Dont give in, you dont need all the dumb stuff.

[Munchkinn94]

That sounds like a whole lot of sketchy to me. If he didn't have anything to hide he wouldn't turn over or change his password. And you have every right to doubt him with behavior like that. I would kill my boyfriend if he was up that late talking to other girls, and then tried having sex. Ha, ain't happening. I know you want things to work, but until he grows up maybe you're better off without him. I'm sorry you're having to go through all this though. /:

[Wolfeenix]

He needs a reality check. If my husband raised his hand to me he'd be out the door in a flash. You need to talk to him and tell him his behavior is not on and its not a good example to set for your child.