i need advice pretty please (:

[kdm541]

This aint Really a question but im very excited with my pregnancy im 19 and im 8 weeks and 5 days pregnant i havent went to the docs. I havent told my mom im scared to do it but i got to everyday my tummy is gettin a lil bigger. The reason why im scared is because my boyfriend is a minor still we have been together a little more than a year (: did i do bad by getting pregnant?  He wanted the kid more than i.

[Lelemd19]

If your planning on having a healthy baby I would suggest to tell your parents immediately the first 12 weeks are crucial in the development of the baby and its important to get the right care and nutrients to both of you. For an example, taking prenatal vitamins, eating healthy, knowing what you can or can't eat and knowing what things that could be dangerous to the health of your baby as well because those things could be normal to you but when your pregnant everything changes.

[KTowne]

Thank you, and congratulations to you, too. Everything happens for a reason, and a baby is supposed to be a great time in your life, try to enjoy it! I know I stressed a lot through my pregnancy, and regretted it. Once you see your son or daughter you know you'll do anything to support and give him/her all they'll need, work hard!!

[kdm541]

Yeah well he would never listen to me idk its a long story but we both lost our virginity to eachother so i was sure about the risks. Dang you helped alot thanks i need to step up and get a job somewhere i got my diploma that helps a bit and i will do that service thing thanks alot and Congrats ((:

[kdunn716]

Just be happy your man is happy about it. I got preg at 17 and he wasnt happy at all tried to talk me into an abortion. I didnt of course and now i have a wonderful 4 year old son. Your lucky. :)

[KTowne]

Well, it's the woman's responsibility to take control of her body, not only for STD's, but pregnancy, I was always on BCP while having sex. If my boyfriend was unexpectedly finishing in me, and NOT letting me know, I'd be livid, and wouldn't be having sex with him unless I knew it was protected, so it wasn't prevented either. He really needs to make sure he gets a job, it may be harder for you to get a job pregnant, either way, being young it's going to be hard to get more than a minimum wage job, and that will barely cover a baby, let alone housing, bills, etc. Look into your local social services, they may pay for your apartment, food, etc. You'll have to work hard, and don't be upset at your mother if she's angry, she's going to be thinking neither of them have jobs, and I'm going to have to support this baby. You'll have to grow up fast, both of you, but you'll get through it. My husband and I have worked very hard to get where we are, although we both had jobs before I got pregnant, we pay for our own bills, house, children, needs, and wants ourselves, it's hard but definitely doable!

[kdm541]

Well the pregnancy wasnt Really planned he always wanted a kid. And he would *** in me unexpected well he knew i didnt. If it was for me i would of waited to see if he is the one but it happend.  And so far hes happy im happy he cant wait to have the baby in his arms. And Thanks alot and no i dont got a job we are looking for jobs and yeah we are planning to get an appt after we save up yeah i heard about the wic i think im going to do that for now and i got to tell my mom asap tho ah its tough tho. And im happy for you tho (:

[jillianjohnson]

Yes, u should never plan a pregnancy unless u r in a committed relationship with 2 ADULTS.

[KTowne]

Well it's a little too late to think about if it was bad by getting pregnant, unfortunately. I got pregnant at 17, I'm married to the man I got pregnant by, 21, and expecting our 2nd, still happily married. Does your boyfriend have a job, do you? I would make sure you have a way to support the baby, because I knew going into my pregnancy it was my child, my responsibility to take care of him/her, not my parents. I would look into assistance, food stamps, housing, insurance, especially if you don't have it. WIC is very helpful for expecting moms, as well. When you realize you're the one going to be mom, and taking care of a baby, you need to step up, and so does the dad, so do all you can to make it work, if you don't think you can handle it, there's always people looking to adopt. You also should tell your mother asap. Of course she'll be upset, but she'll get over it, you need all the support you can get right now!