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Midwife vs. OB
ok, i just called about 10 different ob/gyn offices in the area. we only have 3 hospitals that deliver babies...... and only one has waterbirthing. and not all ob/gyn offices are affilated with which hospital i choose. uhh, so confusing. ANYWAY..... sorry for rambling on............. what do you think about a birth with a midwife vs. an OB.............
tell me all you know........... im getting confused....... do midwives help you with breathing throughout labor? or maybe other techniques???? LET ME KNOW GIRLS....... I want to get everything to go like i plan on. (first pregnancy i saw like 3 or 4 diff docs. --- i couldnt connect with any of them........ I hope this time around will be different!!)
tell me all you know........... im getting confused....... do midwives help you with breathing throughout labor? or maybe other techniques???? LET ME KNOW GIRLS....... I want to get everything to go like i plan on. (first pregnancy i saw like 3 or 4 diff docs. --- i couldnt connect with any of them........ I hope this time around will be different!!)
You really nead to do a little more research on you just said. Just so you know MANY ob/gyn have NEVER experianced a natural birth, most of them know how to give you pitocin and an epidural, and better yet a c-section. FOR EXAMPLE; you go into labor, not moving along as quickly as the doc prefers, gives you pitocin, painful, u request epidural, they give you such a high dose of pitocin, your child starts going into stress............. its not the labor itself. It was the ob/gyn doc. that started this whole problem................and that is EXACTLY why the c-section rate is at 46%............ GET the facts before you post something like that. Midwives on the other hand have witnessed thousands of normal healthy births. which is the way nature intended things to be. I personally dont care what degree a person will have just so they are knowledgeable in what they are doing, noooo NOT from books or "school" but from real- life experiances.......... AND midwives have way more knowledge and take more training geared towards labor, then any ob. yes they obviously are needed for an ER c-section, but no they are absolutly not nessary for labor, JUst SO u know, and dont be alarmed YOur DOCTOR WILL NOT HELP U WITH LABOR, he will just come in to see how open u are. and when u gotta push. If your idea of an ob/gyn is that he will be ur night in shining armor, u are mistaken!!!! i had an ob/gyn, i regret it now.he popped in to say hi how u doin. and left......... came back in when baby was out. you know who deliverfed my baby ?????------ a midwife! =)
i personally wouldn't chose a midwife because they are not doctors. when i deliver i want a doctor by my side that can handle any situation should it arise. midwives are essentially nurses, and that does not make me feel safe or feel my child is getting the best care. bedside manners are not the most important aspect of delivering your child.
I couldn't agree MORE with EVERYTHING you said. Thanks for taking the time to share and write in such an understandable, caring way.
WAIT it's CL but CM works too lol. I forgot to mention that they do provide pain management at this hospital in drug form ( there is a list you can chose from - gas being one option but not sure about the rest.. think another was morphine. Just something to take the edge off ) well before they would even come close to giving someone epidural. 1 of my friends just had her son 3 weeks ago and she said she was only in labour 3 hours and had no drugs at all. It wasn't a walk in the park by no means but she had support and techniques which helped.
The hospital I'll be giving birth in has a high success rate in natural births ( they don't offer epidural since it prolongs birth but as a last resort it is there ) the midwives here are great and very much there the whole time to help if you need it before and during the big moment. Let me put it this way.. It is like a factory line where the babies are born rather fast and that's thanks to the midwives here. I already do alot of squatting since it helps take pressure and discomfort away for me and most definately toilet sitting - my hips and pelvis feel like theyre falling apart and it is more so in the evening when she's moving around. My partner, he puts pressure on my lower back right across my butt cheeks and rubs hard when im on my all fours or squatting. Huge help. I am planning and want all natural birth so I'm getting very prepared. Thanks JoyRenee for such helpful information. Now that's a CM for ya :)
m3lanie- you are due in about a month? I would definitely try to find someone to start talking to ASAP about your birthing plans. If you want to have a natural birth then it does take some planning and figuring out what you'll do if X happens. And to learn coping techniques if you do not wish to use pain medication. Contractions hurt.
MOST OBs (and I do say most) treat birth like an infection- as something to be treated. The truth is that women were born to give birth. Our pelvises are unique, our organ (the uterus) is unique in that it is the only one to expand and shrink as it does and we have the ability to grow and house an entire little human inside of us. What happened before OBs? Women gave birth with midwives.
Have mortality rates decreased? Yes! Because we have more knowledge. We know how to diagnose things like pre-eclampsia and placenta previa so that we can prevent the unthinkable.
High risk women truly do need OBs. They are a necessity. For for a low-risk woman the more interventions that are thrust upon her (fetal monitoring, Pitocin, artificially breaking the water before her body is ready, etc.) can put her in a position where she is very vulnerable and at high risk for major complications which can lead to ceserean. Just watch A Baby Story.
It is common today and "the norm" for a woman to end up in the hospital in labor (or show up for induction) and she is feeling good and working through contractions. But then they do X to her and then they decide to Pit her because she is not progressing within a certain time limit. Because of X and the Pit then Y happens. No longer do you see a woman laboring to bring her baby into the world but a hungry and thirsty woman laying prostrate on the bed no longer in control of what her body is doing.
I must also mention that midwives are more likely to allow you to birth in a position other than lithotomy (on your back or semi-sitting). The lithotomy position is not a natural position to birth in and is only to give the doctor optimal view of the baby coming out. Sorry but your child's birth shouldn't be about the doctor's comfort. What needs to happen is for the woman to listen to her body and get into a position that feels right to her (usually squatting or on hands-and-knees). The positions I just mentioned are OPTIMAL for your pelvis for opening wide for baby to descend. Squatting shortens the length of the vagina and opens the pelvis so it is a great position to birth in.
Another thing is that the lithotomy position increases your risks of tearing. It is harder to push in this position as well. And don't even get me started on pushing by holding your breath and counting to 10.
I wish both of you much luck in finding a suitable care provider during your pregnancies!
MOST OBs (and I do say most) treat birth like an infection- as something to be treated. The truth is that women were born to give birth. Our pelvises are unique, our organ (the uterus) is unique in that it is the only one to expand and shrink as it does and we have the ability to grow and house an entire little human inside of us. What happened before OBs? Women gave birth with midwives.
Have mortality rates decreased? Yes! Because we have more knowledge. We know how to diagnose things like pre-eclampsia and placenta previa so that we can prevent the unthinkable.
High risk women truly do need OBs. They are a necessity. For for a low-risk woman the more interventions that are thrust upon her (fetal monitoring, Pitocin, artificially breaking the water before her body is ready, etc.) can put her in a position where she is very vulnerable and at high risk for major complications which can lead to ceserean. Just watch A Baby Story.
It is common today and "the norm" for a woman to end up in the hospital in labor (or show up for induction) and she is feeling good and working through contractions. But then they do X to her and then they decide to Pit her because she is not progressing within a certain time limit. Because of X and the Pit then Y happens. No longer do you see a woman laboring to bring her baby into the world but a hungry and thirsty woman laying prostrate on the bed no longer in control of what her body is doing.
I must also mention that midwives are more likely to allow you to birth in a position other than lithotomy (on your back or semi-sitting). The lithotomy position is not a natural position to birth in and is only to give the doctor optimal view of the baby coming out. Sorry but your child's birth shouldn't be about the doctor's comfort. What needs to happen is for the woman to listen to her body and get into a position that feels right to her (usually squatting or on hands-and-knees). The positions I just mentioned are OPTIMAL for your pelvis for opening wide for baby to descend. Squatting shortens the length of the vagina and opens the pelvis so it is a great position to birth in.
Another thing is that the lithotomy position increases your risks of tearing. It is harder to push in this position as well. And don't even get me started on pushing by holding your breath and counting to 10.
I wish both of you much luck in finding a suitable care provider during your pregnancies!
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