Mood swings

[Krista519]

Hey people!!
I just recently found out i was pregnant, and my boyfriend and i couldnt be happier. But I am always moody towards him, and i am never in the mood to be touched. I am scared if i keep this up, I will push him away.He is already keeping his distance. Does anyone have any good tips for me? I feel awful and I want to be able to control it. Is it possiable that maybe he is just not understanding? and i am over looking everything? Thank You!

[Krista519]

Thank you everyone!
He just does not understand my body is going through changes and he feels i use that as an excuse. lol only if he really knew. I will try all those books, I hope i can get him to sit down and read it and hopfully get a better insight..
It's only really the little things that drive me insane, like him leaving his socks around or watching me do all the work without suggesting to help, it drives me crazy, but i guess maybe guys are really clueless. I still love him though, Him and i can get through pretty much anything together.
Thanks again.

[jade_21]

So glad I found this post.  I am currently experiencing the same thing.  I have recently begun to feel jealous and resentment towards my husband.  I feel like my body is going through all these changes and I have to make a lot of sacrifices, but he gets to carry on with his life as normal.  I know that is not the case, because he has been for the most part very supportive.  I find myself getting ticked off at the littlest things that normally wouldn't have bothered me.  Perhaps, it's because I really don't like being pregnant and I just want it to be over.  I am hoping this feeling passes soon and I am not forced to lock myself in my bedroom to save our marriage : )

[ammanda]

A really good book is "Great Expectations" its a better less cheesy version of the "What to Expect When your Expecting" I love my book I read it everyday and it has a lot of information in it. and a chapter for the dads to read, that explains everything the woman is going through and how to be more understanding.. Of course I cant get my hubby to read it, cause he's stubborn, but maybe u'll have better luck then me

[LosingMyMindInGA]

My tip is for him to learn more about a womans body changes during pregnancy.  Hormones are raging wild and there is NOTHING you can do about it.  He needs to be supportive and understanding.  It's not uncommon for a woman to not want to be touched at all in the first trimester but for many women the desire for intimate relations comes back full swing and sometimes double time in the 2nd trimester.  Maybe you could find some good books for him to read.  A really good one, and humorous at that, is Belly Laughs by Jenny McCarthy.  She talks about all the things most people don't discuss but does it in a funny way. Another good one is "What to Expect When Your Expecting"

[ammanda]

Hi krista!!!
Congrats on the pregnancy!!!  okay first off. Im going through the same thing with my boyfriend to this day and im 23wks along.  I can't stand the way he looks at me, the way he talks the way he jokes, when he tries to play around, i get irritated and yell at him to leave me alone.  And he gets pissed off.. I know he doesnt understand, and in a way I dont expect him to, cuz he doesnt know what im going through. Theres only very few men out there that can even try to understand. I know he's happy and he loves me more than anything in the world, and he was the one that talked me into having a baby. So I know he means well, so i just brush it off..  I just tell him, it will get better when the baby's here.. and he knows that..  I know u guys will be alright. But dont focus too much on making him comfortable.. U have to worry more about u and ur baby.. Deep down he knows that, and is just being a pain in the ***.. guys have a way of doing that.. u just dont notice it as much when ur hormones arnt going crazy.. but with me its evreyone, not just my fiancee.. I cant stand barley anyone..lol.. good luck and keep ur head up

[tobbeyj]

Welcome to being pregnant. The littllest things used to drive me up the wall with my hubby. The way he looked at me, the way he ate, touched me etc. I think this is completely normal. I would just reassure your BF that you are not sure why you are feeling like this but think it has to do with hormones. Just remind him that you love him - even though he can be the most irritating thing on earth right now. You guys will get through this. This is an emotional time for you both. Congrats on the preg :)