Aa
Need some advice :(
Im 19 from London, i have a 7 month old son who was 2 months premature and stayed in special care baby until for 2 months, i had sevre eclampsia and was in hospital for 2 months myself, i had an emergancy c-section with my boy and 5 weeks later i had a laparoscopy due to endometritis, i suffered with post natal depression as during my pregnancy y husband never ever supported me was not there for anything! Near the third trimester i found out he has been taking crack and heroin and i was devistated and disgusted. I tried many times to help him but no success... He wasnt there for the bith, or the second operation, only saw hisson many 8 times or so for the 2 months he was in hospital (keep in mind he didnt have a job) so there was no reason he couldnt come. Me and him broke up as he was drinking and came to see me and my son and i was very angry ( im muslim and religious and he stopped believing) we went home and we broke up again and i said i wanted a divorce and he couldnt keep his dirty hands off the drugs and drink i fell pregnant again as he pressured me a lot and made me feel bad.... And since we broke he NEVER bothered to see his son and i said i dont want him to eventually as he never bothered and i didnt want my son having a drug addict of a dad who will let him down. I havent heard from him in ages and all of a sudden he threatens me in a message saying for me to meet him cos he wants to see his son. And if i dont let him he wants to take me to court. Now i dont know what he is going to achieve as he isnt even on the birth certificate and we are islamically married and not governmently married so i dont know if he has a chance as hes isnt a good person and doesnt care and i dont need his stress as im pregnant again and he was the reason i spent my pregnancy in hospital due to stress and high blood pressure so i dont know what to do.!!!!!
Yeah he is child to both i hadnt had an intercourse bedsides from with him, i want to divorce him but im trying to find out how as i am young!
Hes says he is clean now and sorted himself out. But i REALLY dont want him in my sons life hes not a good man and i love my son to much to let that man even touch him. And yeah thats what my mums says, i hope so, i love my son to much for him to even know his dad really its sad. Thanks for the advice :)
Just take it one day at a time but seriously he is a drug addict. Get a lawyer and fight for it because there is no way he will get rights to see his son. The only way is if he gets clean and take drug tests. When you are taking drugs like that and drinking you are not in theright state of mind. Don't stress about this because the court will be favoring you, especially since he's not on the birth certificate.
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