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Nervous about becoming a mother

Lately I've been wondering if I'd be a good mother. I don't exactly connect with kids. All my life I've tried to avoid them. No babysitting, holding them, nothing and if whenever i did i always felt awkward. I don't do the baby talk thing or anything. I just had my great nephew he's 8 months and we just sat there looking at each other. He was staring at me and i felt really weird. Then he started crying and me being me asked him what are you crying for, there's nothing wrong with you, relax. He kept wanting me to pick him up and i really didn't want to pick him up. So i took him in my mothers room and went down stairs to fix him a bottle which he did not drink because he wasn't hungry he just wants to be held and walked around the house. I know it sounds horrible but i never really connected or liked kids. I really prefer animals i feel more comfortable around my pets. I talk to my pets like baby's i pick up my cat and hols her like a baby. I really love animals. I joke and say that i wish that i was having a cat all the time because i know how to care for my cats and dogs but I'm not to sure if I'll know how to take care of a baby. My mother says I'll fall in love with her once i see her and not to worry about it but i can't help it. I don't want my baby to be emotionally detached or anything like that. It's so frustrating what if i can't give her what she needs emotionally. Will i feel awkward around her too? I really want to be a good mother but what if i don't know how to be.
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2080231 tn?1444933585
You'll be fine, everyone starts to get doubts towards the end. I wasn't terribly fond of kids before having one, but I absolutely adore my son. I've found that while I'm still not a "kid person" in general, it has made it so much easier for me to socialize and play with other peoples' kids.
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Its ok some people just aren't baby people but once your baby is born your instincts will kick in plus you can bug the s*** out of your mom and siblings and ask them about things you aren't sure how to do im sure everyone will be helpful :)
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Yea it's way different when you have your own. I'm not too big a fan of other peoples children. I used to babysit kids when I was growing up and hated it. You get a different connection with your own.
8541403 tn?1409425380
It come natural I believe. I'm not the best with kids either but my son has the biggest spot in my heart more than anyone ever has. You'll do good mama. Don't worry.
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