Oh and he also asked me to tell you ladies that he's sorry. lol He knows he sounds like a complete *******. He told me the only reason why he stays over at jordans house instead of coming home at midnight is because he doesnt want to wake my parents up, which he would because I have 6 dogs that bark anytime the door opens. He wanted me to tell you that and tell you that hes going to work on being a better man for me. I thought that was cute hah
Well I had a talk with him last night when he got home. I just simply pulled this page up on my laptop and read some of them. Even the reply from the maternal and child form where a girl asked if Ive ever seen Brokeback Mountain. I approached him about it very sweetly...no arguing really, just telling him how I felt. I think reading these replies Ive gotten kind of made him realize that he is indeed wrong. He knows he broke his promise but he doesnt know how to really fix it. He said " I don't mean to do it, but I just don't really know how to keep them" I told him that its kind of like when your dad says hell take you fishing but never does. His reply "My dad did that all the time" So I think thats where he learned it from. I just simply asked him if thats the way he really wants to be. I told him its not that hard to keep a promise. I also brought up the point that its just weird that he stays the night at Jordans house...and once again these replies proved it as well...I asked him if he realized that hes going to be 20 in a few months...then it kind of hit him. He told me he wont spend the night there anymore..but who knows if he'll honor that either. I told him that so many people were telling me to kick him out and it kinda hit home for him. He just looked at me and smiled that kinda oh sh*t smile. I told him about how I try n play Xbox with him and he gets mad at me. He told me he was sorry, he doesnt mean to, the game just hypes him up. I brought up Joys point that I'm unable to change him but somethings he just cant really do to me. And when he left monday while I was crying he thought it would be better for him to leave and give me time to cool off. He says he still hates it when I cry and he never means to make me cry, he just doesnt really know how to handle it. And so and so forth...I got some good feedback this time. Instead of him staring at the wall, he stared at me. We talked and smiled instead of yelled and argued. Now I'm looking forward to him picking me up for lunch at noon. :) Thanks for all your ladies help. Literally. Y'all can really give some good advice
thats exactly how my X was he got away w/it because he knew he could thats why i got tired of it i loved him so much that i supported his habit and him by letting him do whatever he wanted while i busted my a** working and paying bills. Take a look at his family his brothers or brother in laws (in my case) if they do the exact same things to their wives staying out or running around all the time then you're in big trouble. my X him and brother in laws ran around all the time stayed out all night and his sisters never did a da** thing to stop thing it was like a normal thing for your hubby to take 8hrs to got to 7-11 it was crazy and from this i learned no matter how long i toughed it out it was not going to change his sisters had been doing it for 10yrs!!
Thank you. I agree. Thankfully he hasnt cheated on me. I know he does love me very much, I dont doubt it..but I feel like I love him more then he loves me...He just loves me but thinks he can get away with so much... I just think he needs to raise his maturity level a bit. But as my mom said, that may take a very long time and its my choice on whether or not I wanna wait until it happens or kick him to the curb.
im in the same boat as rachie i was involved (married i should say) w/a man too who was the same no respect at all he wanted me at home never go anywhere never do nothing but if he stayed out all night that was ok cus he was the man. i did everything he wanted including going bk to school to prove i was serious bout marriage and about doing something good to have kids and you know what happened i divorced his stupid a**. he kept staying out more and more and longer and longer at a time i would come home at 1030pm and when i would leave for work at noon the next day he still wouldnt have shown his face!!! i got fed up and left and just like rachie i met a wonderful man and married him and he does everything for me and hes always at home w/me!! you do need to think about what you want in a husband and in the future cus if he dont stay at home w/you now you can forget about when your married that wont change at all. I'm agree w/joy too we have internet as well and thats how my hubby plays w/his brother. Have you see the Scott Baio show? well u know his relationship w/Jonny V well thats exactly how this Jordan guy sounds clinging to your BF for support cant live his own life w/out help and then leaving im lonely messages when your not around.
I know that no one can tell you what to do, just offer advice, but let me tell you about a similar situation that I was in.
When I was a junior in high school I started dating this guy, and at the time I really thought we were in love. We had so much fun together, doing stuff, he was probably MY best friend. He, however, felt differently. He would want to hang out with his friends and do things with them, and I wasn't controlling, so of course I had no objections to his "guy time". Then one day out of the blue he broke up with me. He said that he wanted time to hang out with his friends and have fun. We got back together, whenever he saw that I was not going to sit around and wait for him.
This scenario happened several times. We were on again and off again. I truly loved him (or so I thought at the time) so I always forgave him and we would get back together. Then he started staying the night at his friends house, who just happens to be the brother of his ex (which he always talked about and he cheated on me once with). I told him it was over. It was really hard at first because he kept begging me to go back to him. We were together for almost 3 years I almost gave in on more than one occasion, but I held strong and kept saying NO!
Now I am married to a wonderful man. This is the catch though - Jason (my DH) loves me as MUCH as I love him. That makes all the difference in the world. I truly thought my highschool BF loved me, but looking back, I think the relationship was all one-sided.
It feels great to be on a 2-sided relationship and to love and be loved!
This may or may not apply to your situation. Just read into it what you want.