Over reacting or no?

[MamaBear96]

My mother in law is going to be watchin the baby while hubby & I work. I told her I would be breast feeding for about 6 months if I could, but I would have formula stocked up after baby just in case. I told her I'd have breast milk in the fridge & labeled seems how it lasts long. Well she told me she'd rather formula feed baby so she was gonna do that while I was working & I could feed baby breast milk when I'm home. This pisses me off its my baby & I wanna breastfeed STRICTLY! Ugh she tells me its no big deal etc. But why not just feed MY baby the breastmilk? Its not hard. All she has to do is simply warm up the milk instead of just making a bottle when babys hungry. Ugh!

[proudFTMTeTe]

U shouldn't have to hide it she should respect wat u ask n if she can't she wouldn't be watching my baby!!

[tx22]

I wouldn't want to make a huge fight over it and cause family problems so id try to have the hubby handle it but u can always just act like u didn't buy any formula :) In the end tho just try explaining to her its what is best for her grandbaby

[Mommy_Of_1g2b]

Are you guys paying her to take care of your baby??
If you are paying then I would be really mad, but if not I wouldn't make a huge deal about it, maybe you can just tell her you didn't buy formula & just take the breastmilk!

My mom helped me with my daughter and I did noticed she had more work to do because my baby wouldn't get full with the breastmilk and had to feed her like every hr so I did have to give her formula:/

[anikav]

You are the mother and for the first week if you leave her nothing but breast milk then OOPS! She has no choice then to feed the baby breast milk. Also enlist your spouse to explain he supports you in this decision it might soften her up to it some.

[abbb01]

Id be furious!  I don't get it either whats the difference between heating up milk and have to do all the work to make a formula bottle? She needs to do what u ask or else find someone else who respects ur wishes at least until baby is older

[roxrev]

Don't leave the formula out lol. I doubt shell go buy some. You have every right, id be mad too. Formula just isn't as good for the baby, causes them to be more gassy and fussy

[excitedmamitobe]

Hide it if you have to if it comes to that, but make sure you keep count of them being closed and how much of it you have because if she finds it and uses it, well tsk tsk.. shame on her but hopefully it wont come to that :p

[mege26]

Have ur husband talk to her too. I make my husband take on the issues on his side of family and I handle the ones on my side!

[MamaBear96]

Thank you ladies. I probably will just hide the formula if she doesnt agree by the time baby comes. That would be a shame if I have to do that though.

[mbostie95]

You are the mother. You make the rules. Id Be p.issed too. Id tell her how it is and she should respect that.

[kennimae]

Id hide the formula until it is needed.

[lesia314]

Your not overreacting.  Talk to your husband. He needs to be on the same page as you. Maybe he can get through to his mother

[mege26]

Omg. I get mad cuz my gpa always wants to give my 1 1/2 yr old pop. I have had to get almost rude in telling him no. Makes me feel horrible b/c I never talk to anyone like that. But like my gma told me, my child my rules. If I ever find out they did it behind my back I'd be pissed. Its not hard at all to jus warm up a bottle. Why pay for formula if u r able to produce it! Not over reacting. Your child your rules.

[lwolfe520]

No your not over reacting.  Stand your ground.

[excitedmamitobe]

I would feel exactly the same way! You need to put your foot down and tell her like it is.. also talk to your husband and have him tell her too.

[LadyBeeley]

Id kindly tell her she can respect you as a mother or lose privileges - not rights - as a grandmother :).

[newmama21]

Wow that would **** me off!! That is YOUR child not hers tell her there is no if's, ands or but's about it she can either do it your way or you can find someone else

[YoungLadyDay14]

No ur not overreacting. I would just again explain ur wishes, if breastfeeding is working out fine don't leave her any formula. It's ur baby she should respect that.