I'm sorry, but I've gotta get this out of my head here before I mentally hurt someone. My friend L*** has Tourettes along with some OCD.. not a bad case but enough.
Since I've known her she's only liked 2 guys.. one was the star football player at our school... the other, now at her college is a rugby player or something like that. She'll get to the point of OBSESSING over every little thing with these guys. Always wondering about the what ifs... then is CRUSHED when a little later they say they don't like her like that or have a girlfriend.
Ladies, she's only 21 years old. She worries that she'll be an old maid, or a virgin forever.. etc.
Now since we were 17 I've tried to be a good friend. I always encourage her, and offer advice, and things like that. I understand the Obsessive Compulsive thing with her and love her anyways.
She's one of my closest friends. HOWEVER, tonight she really made me pop my lid. This last guy she's been obsessing with and hoping to "score" told my husband he has a girlfriend. (they happen to work together).. well, thinking I'd be a good friend and tell her before she asks him out again and embarrasses herself (which she'd do and then call me about).. I VERY NICELY told her that Carlos and this guy happened to be talking and he told carlos he had a G/F, carlos told me, and I told her.
Well, she then proceeds to laugh crazily, and say shes gotta go. Then calls me back later to say that I've ruined things for her and she has no hope for guys... and why did I have to tell her this. My reply was that I only said he has a g/f and how would that ruin things for her???
We mustve spent a good 20min. on the phone, me trying to A) reassure her that she's got PLENTY of time to find a man, B) Justify myself and my marriage to her, C) let her know she can't blame me for trying to be a good friend and keep her from embarrasing herself, D) suggest that she needs to see a pro- counsellor because talking to me isn't helping her and NO she's NOT CRAZY... just conflicted in her emotions.
Jeez... I posted a blog on my myspace but couldn't name names.. it's like she LOVES to call and put stress on me knowing all that I'm already under.. My mom does the same thing too.> PPL just want to voice they're problems to me know'ing I'll take it on as my own to help them if I can.
They then get mad when I finally say enough, or get mad at my advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Whew... thnx for letting me rant. srry again.