Today's date is Monday, 30-May
Does anyone know of an age range on an ultrasound that determines the age of a fetus?
I am in a situation in which I am now questioning whether or not I am the father.
She is/was my best friend for over three years. We talked about everything, including significant others. For the past year, she had sworn abstinence, serving as a leader of her church group with the emphasis on this practice. Over the course of the past year (dating back to Jan. 2011), she had told me about the times she would date but not allow anything more than that. She would also say that she would travel back to her home town from time to time and occasionally hang out with her ex, but that was it, no sex.
On New Year's Day, 01-Jan-2012, she had a party at her home. I met two damn fine ladies and both were attracted to me, which she instantly noticed. To cut to the meat of the story, she became jealous and didn't speak to me again until 14-Jan., after I called her. After that emotional talk, she I and met at her house on the 16th, in which we had sex for the first time ever and we were not protected. I did not ask the questions I should have, but it happens.
Sooooo, the next day she told me her next period was due on the 21st and she never missed a period, which raised a red flag. On the 23rd her period hadn't come so she set up an appointment for her doctor. On the 30th, she called me at work and told me the doctor stated she was pregnant.
Okay. A high-risk pregnancy due to fibroid tumors, she has had four appointments since that date. The baby is still fine as of today, but now I wonder about paternity.
The first ultrasound happened late February, very early. The next ultrasound happened on Apr. 6th, in which the picture stated the fetus was 12 1/2 weeks. I had had sex with her on Jan 16th or 10 weeks to the date. I had questions and she quickly tabled them, stating I was the father. Although I trusted her, I had reason to wonder, for there other signs which I won't get into. The latest ultrasound happened last Friday, Apr-27th. She didn't want me to go so she lied to me, for she called me and told me she went to the appointment and told me we were having a girl! The ultrasound pic stated the fetus was now 16 1/2 weeks. I was now real curious! In speaking to a nurse, she insisted ultrasound dates are not totally accurate and could be off as much as two weeks either way.
The nurse all but assured me that it was highly unlikely the sex couldn't be determined before at least 18 weeks. Can anyone out there confirm the earliest time sex could be determined? I've been reading all weekend and I now know that a CVS could be used as early as 14 weeks. I just don't know what type she has had.
She had been treating me like crap since the pregnancy began and our friendship is all but over. She still to this day demands things of me that I don't feel I should have to do for her, but feel guilty because she's all alone. So I still help out.
In closing, if an ultrasound is real accurate, then I feel the baby might not be mine! If it is two weeks off either way, then two weeks earlier the sex really be determined and two weeks later the baby really wouldn't be mine... or could it still be. She also looks like she is at least six months, for she is not a big woman. The stress!!! I now don't want the baby to be mine; I hope that doesn't sound too bad, but she doesn't want to have me as her man, so I don't want her to have my child.
There is more to my story, but this is the gist of it.
Jan 16 to Apr 27 is 14 weeks and four days and the ultrasound showed 16 weeks and 4 days. I am real concerned. For now I will continue to read up on this; she still has five or six months left and she is in pain frequently.
I look forward to any insights or stories anyone is willing to share with me, for I will check frequently.